Can anyone explained me (woman 48) left a husband for a younger man (40). Ex husband same age found 14 years a new younger pretty woman. Why children show so much anger towards his father and new gf while mother’s new partner is totally accepted? Children are adults, and son is struggling with women and shows the most disapproval towards new father’s gf…? He calls it cringe, and family including his elderly parents accuse him for middle age crisis. Man and woman prior divorce both were in good jobs doctors…if this matters. Thanks EDIT: children are like 19 and 20 ?
Everyone in this story is old enough to make their own decisions.
am in total agreement with you.
Right, like I get everyone has their little formulas and I *totally* get the potential for sketchiness in age gaps… but like if a 34 year old isn’t capable of making her own decisions, just like what are we even doing?
Who are you in this scenario?
From another post on the account, she is the sister of the younger woman.
How close in age is the new gf to the adult children? That generally explains the hostility/cringe factor
When I was 7, I my uncle, who has worked in hotels since he was a chef in his 20’s, had moved to Poland and met a very pretty young woman. He was 42 and she was 27. My uncle already had two daughters from a previous marriage that were 22 and 24. I just remember being so confused by the whole situation.
The kids are 19 & 20.
What is the age gap between the son and the father’s girlfriend? It’s hard to envisage a mother figure who is only a few years older than oneself. Perhaps the son thinks the father is planning a second family and feels displaced. Perhaps the new girlfriend is overreaching and patronising the adult children. Perhaps there’s more to the circumstances of the divorce from the first wife (children’s mother) than have been written here.
However, I agree with the other Redditor that everybody is an adult. So on the face of it, there’s nothing inherently wrong with the relationship, even if not everybody approves.
I get that this is a younger guy, but is a 40 year old to a 48 year old REALLY a “younger guy” in the way we think of it?
Because some people have core assumptions about what is proper and what is not. And a 14 year age gap, even though both people are clearly adults, tends to be one of those things that can **really** piss some people off.
It’s possible the son was deeply opposed to the divorce and seeing a re-marriage with a big age gap just set him off.
Kids can be like that. My girlfriend’s son really seems to have a problem with me being together with his mum, he said before he met me “if he moves in I’m moving out”
I’ve no intention if moving in. I’ve been kind to him, but not pushy, he’s 18, he may or may not grow out of it.
Meanwhile his dad has remarried and his step mum sounds like a horror. She won’t let him have his own room there, his room is the spare room which he’s not even allowed to move the furniture around in and he seems way more accepting of her.
There’s no massive age differences in my story but it shows kids can be unpredictable in their outlook.
On the other hand I’ve been quite surprised how little it’s actually bothered me, I make an effort but don’t really let it get to me too much. I do feel sorry for my girlfriend, I think it speaks to the kid taking after his dad in the way he treats women, though I guess I don’t know that for sure and it’s not my place to have any say over him or his upbringing.
It could be because his step mom sucks and he views his mom’s as the only place he is safe….. unless a man fucks it up. For all you know the step mom was cool before she moved in.
It maybe could be.
I’m not directly involved in any of it and this is all from my perspective.
It’s been two years since we got together and most things are all good.
He’s a teenager and things might change. His mum says that a friend of his got a step father years ago and it wasn’t a good dynamic, so that might colour things too.