This is my last post for today, but this is the type of stuff that I am dealing with. I feel like my post reflect the past so I am going to talk about things that are present so people can get an idea of how I think.
So this last weekend was my birthday. I decided to get away and celebrate it with a few friends from college. Overall, a great time away from med school. Here is the thing though. No one wished me happy birthday in my med school. I can understand a few people forgetting since I wasnt close with alot of people. But there are some people that I was really close to and even hung out regularly for the last 3 years. In fact, I made a story on Instagram story and only 10 people liked it. I had over 200 views from people including alot from those in my class. The likes were all of my buddies.
I am adding context before I talked about this particular friend. But basically, I am causal friends with this girl in my class. She has text me a few times throughout this year and even hung out 1on1 before. i consider her friend although we arent super close. I even text her happy birthday. I also liked every post on instagram as well. I even texted her a few times recently like a month ago talking to her about rotations and how is she surviving. Pretty responsive through text but I did noticed that she didnt seem as interested when I text her.
She viewed my story and never text me. I know this seem little but given all that I mentioned about her, would you stay friends or start distancing. People in my life do this stuff alot where they show small signs that they dont care. Old me would blindly ignore it. So I want to ask people here. How would you handle it?
Also side note going to my previous post, this just shows me too that a lot of women dont like me lol. I had a bunch of women view the story but no one liked nor reached out. I had dudes that barely seen in years reach out saying they miss me. What the heck is going on lol?
It’s honestly incredible how much you, a 28-year-old man, sound like a teenager.
Thats ok but answer the question
You’re mad because people didn’t wish you a happy birthday?
Dude what the fuck. Grow up and either talk to her about it, or don’t. This is so childish.
Im not being childish. You clearly havent dealt with that
You came here for advice from men, I gave it.
The fuck is your problem, are you insecure? You need other people to care about your birthday, lol. If you have a problem being alive, or are not thankful for another year, why should she be?
Get a grip dude.
Not really but I dont think you understand how it feels to be constantly ignored and rejected. Also public i was grateful so she doesnt know how i feel privately
That shouldn’t matter, why are you trying to tell her how she should feel?
You have an ego problem. Not everyone has to like you, and you don’t have to like her.
I still don’t get why you are crying like some child, you’re spoiled if you think everything has to go your way.
Does she know you want to be friends and aren’t trying to get into her pants? Asking because you seem surprisingly hung up on this particular woman not reacting to your birthday, as opposed to all the other classmates/ fellow students.
If you actually want to be friends, you need to develop the friendship and let it grow. Cutting her off isn’t going to prove anything to her or have her miss out on anything important. You are an acquaintance to her right now.
I have a friend who is going to med school. I met him through my girlfriend who is also in med school. I’m keeping him if I ever break up with my girlfriend.
I’m also acquaintances with half a dozen of their mutual friends. I’ve traveled to Canada with them and I’ve been on at least a dozen hangouts with them. But they aren’t *my* friends, and there is nothing wrong with that.
I caught up on this particular person because I actually spent time trying to get to know her and we texted over 100 times. Of course all friendly. But I been knowing her for a while now 3 years to be exact. So we should have been friends by this point.
That is why I went into details in the post so I could paint the scene and why I am a little unnerved by it. Also I am hurt by others in my class to. My class is only 35 people so its not like i barely knew them. They all know me fairly well. Im asking since I am trying determined if it worth investing or not. I make this mistake all the time so im curious how others would see it.
Yeah, if it’s been 3 years and you’ve been trying to be friends that long, cut your losses.
Also, happy belated birthday brother!
How do you know she even actually watched the story? I skip through everyone’s and dont even see what they say/look like before just immediately skipping.
I forgot to mention that I rarely get on instagram. I post maybe once a year so its huge if I make a story. So i feel like she would have taken it seriously
Honestly most grown adults don’t take social media that seriously …no offense.
I barely used instagram. I didnt even get social media until 25. So its rare for me to post or show things about my life. So that is why its weird to me