I recently found out my gf has been cheating on me for most of our relationship with a coworker she’s on and off with since before we were dating and been lying about their relationship all the time I’ve brought it up. I finally found the proof the other day and confronted her we talked about it calmly for awhile (few hours) and then things got heated and I found myself with my hands around her neck. We spent the duration of the day talking about it and have decided to work it out. Upon writing this and chat gpt lol I know it sounds extremely toxic but other than this our relationship has been improving I know what I did was wrong despite what I was reacting to but does anybody have any true advise as to moving on?
Therapy. You need all the therapy. You’ve severely assaulted a person. Strangling is a potentially deadly attack. The likelihood of you “finding yourself with a corpse at your feet” is a whole lot bigger than it should be. If you actually think this was wrong, you’ll need a whole lot of therapy.
Poor you. You’re both psycho. Go get some mental health please.
Jesus you ended up with your hands around her neck? You are not good for each other. Break up and get therapy, you two are a ticking time bomb, next time you get heated this will probably happen again
Um. Wtf. What you did was assault her. You need to get therapy, and so does she. This relationship is over. Leave it, grow up and date someone closer to your age.
You need to seek therapy, before you actually do kill your next girlfriend
She is using you because you’re young, and you physically assaulted her. I think you can chalk this up to a loss, and break up and go to therapy.
I am trying to tread carefully as I say this I’m not trying to justify it, I’m really trying to grasp the entire situation. I’ve never done anything like this before and don’t intend to again but I was previously cheated on in my last relationship and told her that before we started dating, she lost her mother and family and I have been with her through her crying fits and depression supporting her, we spent thanksgiving and Christmas together which was a first for both of us(cooking and not spending it either alone or with family) so when I found she had been cheating on me almost the entire time I didn’t know how to act and it happened in a split second. Again not trying to justify it but I’m finding it hard to see myself as the person a lot of people are making me out to be in these comments. Seeing as though anybody would have thought of doing the same thing in my position given this info.
Yes what you did was wrong. Yes you decided to work things out. Yes the relationship might be improving but NO it won’t matter if you don’t fix YOU. What happens if you get pissed off at something again, and you get violent again? You need to find out why you’re this way, where it came from, and how to stop it from happening again. She also needs to be ready to be loyal and not cheat again. Her cheating and your abuse is a toxic mess.
Great use of passive sentence dipsht
Now take accountability, both of you, and realize you’re both terrible for anyone else in the world so stick together, don’t involve friends, and don’t have kids. Should be safe in that domain anyway
The only reason a 37yr woman is with a 25yr man is for sex. She is into sexual relationships and not real ones. Go off and find a girl your own age. I made the same mistake when I was young. Women who are much older than you are the fun zone. Women your age is the forever zone. .
No matter what. “Hands around her neck” cmon brother. That’s not on. You do not under any circumstances go hands on in an argument like that. Find it lucky you aren’t in handcuffs with domestic violence.
Broooo she’s 50% older than you, this is not serious for her