My bf (24M) and I (23F)- lost spark and excitement in rel. And I am having dreams of falling in love with random boys.

We are in a secret relationship- so no one knows about it.
We just don’t want to make it public before we decide to marry each other. So the problem is I can’t share any rel problem with any of my friends.

The problem is:

1. As it has been 2 yrs, now things are not exciting, we have explored all the places together.
The excitement of meeting each other after a long time is there but as soon as we meet that fades away…and we get irritated by small things that annoy us about eachother (mostly I get honestly)

2.He is idk why under the pressure that he is disappointing me
Ex:
a. he used to bring rose for me from his house garden, yst we met after 1.5 months and he forgot to bring me rose and that’s the second time it is happening
I didn’t say anything but he is like ik u r disappointed…I was internally but I didn’t want to show and make a scene bcz it’s okay- what can we do now

b. I asked him to plan before hand where do we have to go…I didn’t that much- just had 2-3 places in mind that we had already seen…He was like…. See u r again disappointed

What can I do now…I asked him 1 thing to plan the day. It’s like he doesn’t make any efforts now.

3. I like his older version… Always knew what to do, taking the lead. It’s like it doesn’t matter to him anymore.

4. When we were together also…I was feeling nothing spl, I was not feeling the urge to stay little extra when it was time to go, I felt ugh my day got wasted I could have studies instead
Yeah we laughed and ate together but it was like meeting a friend…

5. He doesn’t like to chat and as we are home we can’t be on call that often. So we don’t that much…he says that he misses me but honestly his actions doesn’t match his words.

6. He doesn’t study at all…lazy, procrastinator. I am not sure if I will marry him if he stays like this.

7. I am getting dreams of falling in love, having that butterfly feeling etc with random boys…there is no specific boy but the feeling of having attraction twd someone

Ik even if I tell him about the dream, nothing would change much, he would only that pressure and then I would feel bad.

I don’t want the tag that I am that kind of person who leaves ppl when she gets bored of them. And he seems to be chill about it, he doesn’t think that much if, care that ig

How can I add spark our rel? ..it seems like I get bored of one thing and then try to leave it.

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