So, for some background, I have a chronic condition that is altering my life tremendously with no known cause as of now. For the past 3 years, its been going on, and it just gets difficult to do basic tasks. Starting January, I started going to a big research hospital and they’re suggesting endoscopies and biopsies, so I’m getting more nervous as time goes on.
At the hospital, they use this thing called ‘My Chart’ to communicate test results and what not. I’m 16, and I had to consent for my mom to have access to my records. The account in question was supposed to be set up so I could have access to it, through my email and other credentials, and she would be able to have my results sent to her as well (they require the patient to make the account after the age of 12 and require consent for the parents to have access to any information off of it, which imo is ridiculously young, but i digress, since that seems hypocritical of me to say). Basically, she set up an account under my name with her email and password and never told me, and then forgot her password more than once. Ive been really anticipating my most recent results, especially since my condition has taken away the main thing I enjoy doing.
After a week trip for a state competition, I wanted to ask about my results and see if she got any back; I only asked once if we could look at them and she immediately says no and goes off at me, so I get defensive in response and told her that she shouldn’t have made the account, or at least have given me the password to it. She instantly went off about the price of it all and how much work she put in all for her to not even get a "thank you" and whatever, so I just end up walking away and trying to move on with my life.
My dad after a little while comes in and asks my mom what’s wrong. She immediately goes off and twists the story around like I was nagging her and trying to get myself out of helping out around the house (when I left the room, I literally was doing my chores like she had previously asked, I was literally doing the shit I had to do). Anyways, she’s shittalking me while I’m in the next room over, hearing her twist the story around like I’m some kind of monster and how ungrateful I am and this and that, and just belittling me to my dad over asking a simple question. She said for years I’ve "made her life a living hell" and won’t stop shittalking me for about 2 hours to him, while I was literally right there.
Finally, my dad comes in to "talk to me," but in reality all he does is just ANTAGONIZE me, saying "its not you we hate, its the situation," meanwhile, my mom and him were both talking about every wrong-doing I’ve ever made since I was essentially born calling me a huge POS.
There’s more I could say, but that’s the basic gist.
This happened last night and she’s still showing resentment towards me. AITA?
NTA. Call the doctor’s office directly and ask about your results. Let them know you don’t have access to MyChart
It doesn’t matter who’s paying for your medical treatment. You are entitled to information regarding your body
> she set up an account under my name with her email and password and never told me
Nope – that’s not how that works. Go in, call, whatever and explain the situation. Tell them you don’t have access to your account and would like to revoke access granted to your mom. This is really serious. Please also tell a school counselor about this, you need more than one adult here to back you up.
NTA.
Yeah OP really needs a trusted adult here, her parents are …. Oof. I couldn’t imagine having a kid just to treat them like that
I see it a lot in my line of work, you’d be shocked how many people behave like this. OP needs to find a mandatory reporter (counselor, doctor, etc.) and speak up. This is abuse and medical neglect. What if the results have actionable items? And OP isn’t getting treatment because mom won’t share their medical records?
God that’s terrifying …. I hate that mentality with such a passion. If you’re not going to love your children why are you having them….. It’s so scary to see. I really hope OP has someone they can turn to about it.
NTA. Try calling the hospital and explaining your situation. It might be possible for you to reset the account. If you are in the USA, they might refuse since 16 is under the age of majority (more info here: https://govfacts.org/rights-freedoms/family-personal-rights/parental-rights/medical-rights-for-teens-and-kids-when-parents-decide-and-when-they-dont/) but in other countries that should not be a problem.
If the hospital refuses to let you access your chart without a parent, then you’d have to go the route of advocating for medical emancipation. However, I doubt that they’d refuse to at least answer questions about what’s on the chart. You might have to make an appointment with a nurse practitioner for them to go over your results, but there is no reason that they’d force you to have a guardian for that.
Not only you are not an ah, but it sounds like your parents are manipulative, so if I was you, I’d try to talk to a trusted adult about your home situation.
NTA. At 16, you’re still underage, but old enough to have information about your health care, and apparently your local health care system agrees with that. Try going directly to the health care people, maybe through your main doctor’s office, and asking to have your own direct access set up. If your doctor’s office staff don’t know how to do this, they should be able to tell who does.
NTA. It’s your medical information, your body, and your health scare asking to see your own test results is the bare minimum, not being ungrateful
NTA – your parents suck. You have two years to prepare to get away from them.
NTA.
Nta
Is she your birth mom? That’s pretty wild. You can contact the hospital and ask them to reset the password, or ask your doctor for the results on your next visit. Hope it works out for you
My chart is easy…press the need help button and tell them u need to change email and password