I’m (F27) currently sharing an apartment with a roommate (F24). She was there before me so even though we are co-renting I am paying 280 more than her just because she wanted to rent it. The landlord didn’t mind the arrangement as long as we send him the full amount every month. I had to find a place last minute so I accepted it. The roommate is kind to me and even invited me to her house in Mexico but recently she invited her boyfriend and told me he will stay 2 weeks (without asking first). And now it’s been more than 2 weeks and he’s still here. Even though they’re in their room, the kitchen is messy and the bathroom is also dirty. There are shaved hairs and it started bothering me.
I also am walking 15 mins to the bus stop everyday and then it takes around 40 mins to reach work. I realized it’s not worth it especially considering my room is really small. I started looking for a new place and found one today. I will need to give a one month notice. But I still feel bad for not informing her before since she seemed stressed about me leaving and then her needing to find a roommate. I just thought I need to prioritize myself. Am I the asshole if I’ll tell her this today? Also, I texted her asking when is her boyfriend leaving considering we only agreed on 2 weeks.
(I’ve been living here for 6 months now)
NTA I don’t see how 1 month is an unreasonable amount of time. Especially if you just fully decided you’ll be moving recently.
NTA One month is standard notice, and she lost the right to extra consideration when she moved her boyfriend in without asking and let him overstay
NTA
She has a new rommate, her boyfriend. If he’s not paying rent, not your problem. A month is plenty of notice. Get out of there and dont look back
You can claim you felt pushed out with her boyfriend overstaying, and that you really need the relief in your budget. NTA.
NTA 30 days is standard notice for leaving anywhere you’re renting. As long as you pay for the month you’ll still be there, there’s nothing that you’re being an AH about
NTA. Your only obligation is to give her a month’s notice, no reason or explanation needed. Her boyfriend is basically living there already, he can help her with the rent until she finds another roommate.
NTA One month is standard. You take care of YOU!
NTA. Roommate arrangements are business arrangements. You can leave any time you want as long as you give her whatever notice is legal where you live, and it sounds like you’re doing that. You don’t need to give reasons. Sometimes it might smooth things over a bit if you say you’ve found a place closer to work, but bringing her boyfriend into the situation just complicates things with emotional issue. Of course, if she does complain that she doesn’t have someone to share the rent, I’d have difficulty not pointing out that her boyfriend could help since he is living there.
If the agreement was one month’s notice and you gave it then you are NTA.
She has not prioritised you by inviting her boyfriend to live there. Which is what he is doing.
Do you have a contract? That makes a difference.
my contract says one month notice period. it’s a month to month basis
NTA.
Maybe the BF can move in permanently and take your place with the rent.
You are paying more for a long commute and a disgusting kitchen and bathroom? Why does extricating yourself from a bad situation feel like wrong thing to do? You didn’t know this person existed 7 months ago. Why stay any longer? NTA.
NTA unless you had some agreement to give more notice than a month, that is totally reasonable. You have to do what’s best for you.