My (26F) friend (27F) of 15 years has invited me to a birthday brunch with her, her husband (27M), their cutie of a daughter (1.5F), and our other bestie (27F) on Saturday morning. The five of us are supposed to go to a local breakfast spot and maybe go to the birthday gal’s house after to keep hanging while the baby naps. That’s been our plan.
The birthday gal has just texted in our GC asking if it would be okay to invite this other couple we know and their newborn. I’d like to emphasize that **she asked.**
I feel guilty if I say no because it is her birthday and I want her to have a good time. She deserves the best! On the flip, I don’t love this other couple. I’ve known them for 7-8 years atp and it’s still awkward small talk each time we see each other. They’re nice but we have absolutely nothing in common so interactions feel forced and kind of draining.
Would I be the AH if I were honest that I didn’t necessarily want them to come too?
Yes, YWBTA. It’s her birthday. You can deal with being around some people you aren’t close to for a few hours to celebrate her.
YWBTA. Go and celebrate your friend and respect that she gets to invite whoever she likes. You’ll have other chances to hang out without this couple.
YWBTA. Suck it up. It’s her birthday. Maybe try finding a way out of the small talk. Make an effort to know them on a deeper level. You might be surprised.
YWBTA. this is a ‘polite ask’ not one where you actually share how you feel. you say “sure, no problem!” and then suck it up for the few hours it will last.
YWBTA. you don’t like them, nobody has to like everybody. But if its HER birthday, id say you let them come, because you’re not pinned down and forced to love them. when its your party, don’t invite them.
let the birthday girl invite the people she wants, unless and until she tries to invite someone who’s downright evil.
Just in general, YWBTA if you ever try to dictate who else is invited to any social event. If you know someone will be attending that will ruin the event for you, then you simply decline the invitation.
Yes, she asked it if it was OK, but the only acceptable answer is “of course, it’s YOUR birthday!”
You also need to get used to the fact that since your friend is now married with child, she is going to have more friends who are married with children. And apparently this couple is at the top of the list.
Ywbta – this isn’t about you. She wants to see them and it’s her thing, smile and drink an extra mimosa
YTA
It’s not your birthday. Don’t make it about you.
YWBTA it’s her birthday, she must want them there if she’s asking. At best you could say “whatever you want, it’s your birthday” rather than meet it with any “oh great, love them that will be fun!” enthusiasm.
It also doesn’t sound like you have a good reason for not wanting them there other than it’s a little awkward. It’s not like they’re mean or bigots or anything.
YWBTAH if you asked her not to invite someone she wants at her birthday party just because you are not particularly interested in them. This day is not about you at all but rather about your friend. Her request doesn’t sound unreasonable to me but your raining on it would. Be a good friend and honor her day in a manner that would support her wishes.
YTA. It’s her birthday let her invite anyone she wants. If you can’t handle that then don’t go but really just be an adult and be polite to them. You don’t have to be friends with her friends but don’t try to keep her for yourself, it’ll only make you look bad
YWBTA
Just have fun even if you don’t like the other couple
YWBTA you’re 26 not bloody 13.
YTA She’s asking you as a courtesy, but I doubt she’s really asking your permission. It’s her birthday. The only answer is “Of course!! It’s your birthday, whatever you want!”