TA account. So I got a new job. This place is BRAND new; Nnew business, new building, everything. I got hired for more of an administrative role for more money. This is a chance to make more connections and further my professional development. The work environment I’m currently in is very toxic. I like the people I work with as people but they curse on the floor (we work with kids), constant phone use, they don’t necessarily do their job correctly or at all sometimes. I’m on friendly terms with all of them but with the sensitive nature of what exactly we do (therapy) I don’t think the majority of board certified therapists, like the lady who hired me, would appreciate that. They get called out by the ones here all the time. Gossiping is a big issue. On top of it it’s be a conflict of interest if I was in a lead position.
I messed up and recommend one coworker because he’s a good worker. He got hired, I wouldn’t recommend him if he wasn’t professional and good at his job. There are one or two others I would say are fantastic. But the one who got hired told everyone. now everyone is applying. I can’t just go back into the same environment I did before. And it would reflect so poorly on me if they basically infiltrated the place and my new boss was like “wtf”.
WIBTA if I added into an email I’m sending thanking her for the offer letter and how excited I am to get started, about maybe…I do t know. Apologizing for all of the applicants? I don’t want her to think I’m the one that told everyone to go apply. What should I do?
NTA
Don’t say a word in your thank you letter.
It’s the responsibility of the company to run recommendations through their system. If they ask you about anyone, give them an honest answer.
If any old co-workers ask you about getting into your new place, give them honest feedback. I like you as a person, but as a co-worker I couldn’t recommend you because you cuss all the time, you’re on your phone throughout the workday, etc.
I didn’t say anything. I feel like the best policy is to just worry about myself right now and if it comes up with her, it comes up. It’s her business, and she really wanted me to work there. So I’m hoping that she’d feel comfortable asking me about so and so. Really I don’t want it to reflect poorly on me. And the gossiping and cursing won’t just reflect poorly but it’s going to make the place as bad as the current one.
I think (?) I understand – you linked in an actual good worker from your previous job, and people from that same job who you DON’T want onboard found out and applied to your new place?
If that’s what it is, I’d step in and quietly point out to higher-ups that while your pick is good, the rest of them you don’t vouch for personally. It’s a bit awkward, but better than them being hired as they drop your name, then management realising you’ve come in and (seemingly) invited a whole broken work culture to flood into the new place.
Okay. Should I wait until the opportunity comes up? She’s the only person hiring right now because it’s her company. Or should I go out of my way and say something
I also don’t want to word it in such a way that makes me look like like a negative or judgmental person
Of course not. I’d step in and pretty much say that – ‘this is awkward, but i recommended A, but now B, C, D and E have applied – I don’t know their work as well as A, so you’ll just assess them on their own merit? Again, this may not need to be said, but I just didn’t want to blur the lines’.
NTA – But, I would stay out of it, personally. Don’t recommend anyone else. What would they do if they hired a bad worker from anywhere else on their own? You are not doing the hiring. Just stay quiet and don’t get involved, IMHO
Yes I think that’s the best course to action
NTA.
You recommended one good coworker, who they hired. You’re not responsible for the rest.
It sounds like you haven’t even started working there, so don’t think your recommendation is going to carry all that weight. But yes if you are concerned about a flood of your previous coworkers following you, then by all means you should say something.
Perhaps something like “I’m glad you hired Good Worker. He was by far the best person I worked with at Former Company.” That certainly implies that the others might not be of equal quality.
YTA if you’re going to your brand new boss and telling them not to hire certain people. It would also very likely make you look problematic
Exactly that’s what I’m worried about as well. I would never ever be like “hey don’t hire so and so”. It was more so me wanting to say something along the lines of indicating I didn’t tell everyone about this and now they’re applying I guess? But I’m not anyone authority, and I don’t feel right saying bit to hire people outright, that’s messing with people’s livelihood. I don’t want her to be like “oh great she’s telling everyone and I’m being assaulted with apps” and then it reflect poorly on me if she hires someone if it doesn’t work out.
I’m scared she’s going to rescind the offer because the amount of apps from my job is overwhelming or a red flag or something, really.
Well You recommended one person you genuinely thought was good at the job. You didn’t open the floodgates and invite the entire workplace. People hearing about a new opportunity and applying on their own is just normal. As long as you didn’t vouch for the ones who aren’t professional, their applications aren’t really on you.