I was invited to a very expensive/exciting wedding in Lake Como this summer by my close friend from University, and I as their wedding guest, I decided to invite my friend as my +1.
Today, she texted me asking if she can bring her sister (essentially I would have a +2). I told her no. She then texted if I could at least ask the couple. I told her no, and that it was rude and inappropriate to ask. Out of anger I also told her that she didn’t have to come to the wedding herself if she didn’t want to. She responded saying “wtf is wrong with you”. Her sister has never met the couple (doesn’t even know who they are), and my +1 has only met them once.
This is a small, intimate multi-day wedding, and each seat probably costs in the thousands to tens of thousands. I feel like I’ve been put in a very uncomfortable position.
AITA for thinking it’s inappropriate to try and invite your sister to someone’s wedding in Lake Como when you yourself are a +1 to begin with? She doesn’t understand why it’s inappropriate and mentions that it’s not like she wants me or the couple to pay for her sister, but obviously her sister being there costs the couple thousands of dollars. I will say that I know she doesn’t mean to ask as a way of trying to take advantage me to get to an opportunity to get her sister to attend a once in a lifetime wedding in Como. Thank you!
No, NTA. Tell her no, and if she thinks its okay to ask stressed people stupid questions, maybe she shouldn’t come to the wedding either.
Maybe she’d be okay begging 10k off of people she’s met once, but you think that’s inappropriate, for obvious reasons.
Do your close friend a favour and keep this madness away from them.
NTA. she is being opportunistic while she is your friend she sees this as a free trip and is using this as an advantage.
Weddings are usually priced per person. At a place like lake como between 100 to 400 euros per person for catering and beverages.
Your “friend and her sister” are the inappropriate ones, id go alone if I were you.
NTA! If you are certain your +1 is not trying to take advantage here then she is very naive and needs to grow up.
She IS asking the couple to pay for her sister. That too when the couple didn’t even invite HER.
Have a very straightforward conversation with her that you will not be bringing her sister with you and not asking the couple even because you are a guests and it’s impolite for guests to ask for more privileges than what is already offered to them.
Also make it clear that she is ONLY allowed to join you if she does not spend the whole trip pouting about her sister not being there and NEVER brings this topic up in front of the couple!
NTA. Honestly, I’d uninvite her as my +1 if she’s going to act like that.
I feel like this is the only logical option. She either thought she could use the OP as a free trip for her and her sister or she’s not comfortable traveling with OP alone and was hoping her sister would provide a cushion. Either way, that’s not who you want with you as a wedding date.
NTA ewwww your friend is so tacky! I wouldn’t bring her to a wedding at McDonald’s.
NTA. A plus one asking for a plus one is a new one for me. It is incredibly rude.
NTA that is so inappropriate not sure I would even still want her as my +1
You need a new +1
NTA, don’t even invite her, she’s gonna embarrass you bro.
You need to find a new +1. Pronto.
Her request is the most idiotic thing I’ve heard all day. And I’ve heard quite a few dumb things today.
NTA.
NTA. I would also uninvite the friend. Talk about the audacity.
If she doesn’t know why this is inappropriate then you definitely invited the wrong person. She’s obviously self centered if she doesn’t know why it would wrong to ask. I’d ask someone else.
NTA. Find another less entitled to be your +1.