I share an apartment with a friend and since January this year I’ve been taking care of the bills and everything for both of us alone. I was doing this with the mindset that I’m helping a friend get back on his feet but I just found out he’s been lying about his financial situation for sometime now and I feel so used. 24th January this year he told me he lost his job and is going through a bit of financial difficulty which I’m now finding out was also a lie. My job requires me to be away from home for 3days straight sometimes so I only found out because we just canceled a work trip that was supposed to be for 2days and I got back to the house the same day to find a receipt for a watch costing almost $4k laying on the table and the date on it is 3rd February.
When he got back and I confronted him about it he first told me it wasn’t His, someone gave him money to buy in his name lol. When I pressed and told him how he’s been lying to me for about two months He got mad and said I’m making a big deal out of it because I earn more than him (yes I make a very decent amount of money and a lot more than him) and taking care of bills wasn’t actually a problem, the only problem is finding out he lied about everything. Did a little finding and discovered he quit his job after making some money from an investment he made without telling me even though we always share that with each other as we both trade on the side.
I’ve told him I’ll check and let him know how much he owes me for the past two months I’ve been taking care of things alone and he doesn’t like that. Maybe this makes me the asshole because it’s not like I really need it.
NTA and I would be looking for a new roommate
NTA. Not sure how you could be or why you’d consider him a friend at this point. He basically stole from you.
nta and he is NOT your friend
NTA
He’s just mad that he lost his free ride. Get every penny he owes you and boot his ass out, not necessarily in that order.
NTA. That’s not what friends do, It’s basically theft
NTA. Give him the bill along with written notice to be out by the end of the month. Someone who lies to you and uses you and feels entitled to your hard earned money is no friend. The only good thing I can say is, unlike my former friend who lied to me for free rent, at least he doesn’t brag about being an evangelical Christian holding himself to a higher moral standard.
NTA but might be time to live alone if you can afford it… which it seems you can since youve been paying all the bills already.
>Maybe this makes me the asshole because it’s not like I really need it.
1. He doesn’t “really need” your help either.
2. You never know when you might need it in future and he will certainly not be there for you to return the favor if you get into financial difficulty, so get back what you can and set up an emergency fund for yourself for when you (or a loved one that you want to help and is not conning you) need it in future.
NTA.
NTA. Tell him what his back rent is, and if he can’t/won’t pay you, talk to your landlord and let them know that he’s not allowed to renew the lease with you, because what he did was theft. I’d tell him that he has 30 days to pay you the back rent or you’ll take him to small claims court.
NTA. It doesn’t matter whether you need the money or not. What matters is that your so called friend has lied to you and exploited your kindness for financial gain, and now appears to have no shame or remorse for it.
NTA, doesn’t matter if you earn more or less. its equal split on bills/rent. If he couldn’t’ afford it, he should downgrade
he has to sell his watch on those back payments
Never be afraid to ask what is rightfully yours, especially when it is owed by a conniving liar who cheated you out of money you would have willingly lent them.
If he can spend $4k on a luxury item, he can pay what he owes you for covering his basic living expenses for all of this time. Request all of it in a lump sum but if he’s unable to pay, put him on a repayment plan. You may also need to take him to small claims court.
Meanwhile, start looking for another roommate or housing situation and stop sharing financial information with him or anyone else. It only breeds jealousy and the dishonest ones will try ti figure out a way to take advantage of you. NTA.
NTA
He scammed you. He didn’t need any help with anything. He used you.
Do what you gotta do. This guy had his fun with you
He cheated you because he felt entitled to be “kept” by you.
Get out of this living situation asap. He is not trustworthy and this is not how friends treat each other.
NTA