They call me out, but we just have different interest now..
They also can’t seem to see past my old self. Making fun of me, teasing, etc. They seem to maybe doubt that I have changed?
Just doesn’t seem fun anymore.
So AITA for not wanting to hang out, drink etc
NTA. You changed… that’s been known to happen over the course of 20 years.
NTA – go do what you want to do, and make new friends there.
NTA bro, People grow and change and its completely normal for friendships to shift or fade.
same thing happened me, you have out grown them and eveolved passed their childish behaviour. move on and make new friends
NTA, you have clearly grown and matured and outgrew them.
NTA – Your friends your choice. But remember you might look back and wish you kept in touch with your friends. You don’t always have to have things in common. You could get in touch once in a while, which doesn’t have to be often.
I’m still in touch with mine, we text but we aren’t as close as we once were.
NTA you no longer have similar interests AND they are making fun of you. Just stop wasting your time with them.
No you are not the AH!!! I am the same way. I outgrew my child hood friends by the time I was 17. I had too many responsibilities at home. Things they didn’t understand and I didn’t have the patience to explain. I do have some really great friends now. My best friend is bout 15 years younger than me but we act like we’ve been friends since forever!!!
NTA. This is normal. You donʻt need to make a big deal of it, just say no most of the time when they ask you to hang out.
If they ask why, try to give less direct answers like “Iʻm busy”, “Iʻm just more interested in X now” – donʻt say “I grew up and you didnʻt” even if thatʻs how you feel.
We miss a lot of info here, but always NTA for a decision to leave people behind. Its your choice to do so.
When you feel like the scapegoat in a group, that is rough and I can understand it is not fun for you. Being able to recognize this, is a very good step towards advocating for yourself!
I do not know if you already talked to them about their behavior towards you and that you want them to stop? Because it looks like there some assumptions about what they think of you. If you did not; please do this first. Because in my experience, if you start to acknowledge negative feelings, they can be so overwhelming you want to avoid them instead of pointing them out to set new boundaries. And therefore avoid people that give you negative feelings. We can be anxious towards people we actually care about, especially if we have to tell them something they might not like to hear (feedback) or might not be able to meet (needs). If your not used to do so, this feels like a ongoing fight. It is, but its in yourself. Setting boundaries / Expressing needs multiple times per day is healthy behavior, but feels like hell when you are not used to it.
If you did, good for you and shame on them for not respecting your boundaries.
NTA. Life is change. Enjoy your new friends instead. It’s totally OK.