So I (20 male) and she (20 female) are both in a nursing school and giving our semester final exam. We sit on a same bench .Today we had physiology exam . Where we must answer some short questions (15marks) and the two Essay questions (20 marks ). The pass marks is 60 percent .
So the major pass marks is depending on the essay questions. Before writing she told me she can answer only one essay question. There’s a math like essay question where we have to show how oxygen is transported from environment to cell showing the pressure differences in different sites. In the calculation the values should be divided by 40. Before the end of exam, She asked me to clarify the accuracy of the process. I quickly said “the numbers should be divided by 40” because I was trying not to get caught by the invigilator. After the exam she checked the answer and realized she misunderstood me . she thought I meant all the values should be 40. She became devastated and was accusing me of confusing her. She even created a scene in the elevator, saying I’m the reason she will fail. People around us were shocked and uncomfortable. When I was returning home, I was feeling very bad for her. Called her to explain but she was crying and told me not to contact her. So there’s a guilt in me that I should have explained properly. What do you think y’all
YTA. Don’t cheat on exams.
If she thought that the answer to a complex essay question should simply be “40” she might be studying for the wrong profession. At the same time, if you were responding to her in such a way that you were afraid of getting caught by the invigilator you were not following exam rules which is a red flag. You both need to lift your game IMO. ESH.
>I quickly said “the numbers should be divided by 40” because I was trying not to get caught by the invigilator.
So this was not a group thing where you were allowed to discuss stuff, and you were not actually allowed to help her? And even though you helped her, she still was not able to get it right?
>She even created a scene in the elevator, saying I’m the reason she will fail.
On top of being too incompetent to even cheat properly, she also has zero sense of responsibility that it was her own fault (two-fold).
ESH. She for, well, everything you described, and you for helping someone cheat who will be responsible for people’s lives if she passes all her exams.
I would not want her to be taking care of me or any of my loved ones as a nurse. Sounds like the kind of person who will move heaven and hell to hide mistakes they make on the job, which can literally be lethal if you are a nurse.
ESH — her blaming you for failing and initiating cheating. Of course you were willing to help, but test time is every man for themselves. She should be the one to figure out the divide by 40 thing. If she can’t figure it out and bombs the test, it’s on her. But you also gain the AH badge too for participating. Don’t engage.
ESH, you shouldn’t have answered her at all. She was cheating and you kinda helped her (though since she misunderstood, no harm really done).
Hope she’s never my nurse :/
She tried to cheat.
You tried to help her cheat.
ESH.
ESH.
1.) It was an exam. She should have been prepared.
2.) You should have ignored her when she tried to cheat
3.) She had no right to cause a scene because she tried to cheat and STILL got it wrong
4.) Cheating in general is wrong
NTA.
She is 100% in the wrong for trying to cheat by asking you a question in the middle of the exam. And you didn’t even give her a wrong answer, she just misunderstood it.
Of course it is understandable that she was upset after the exam, but you are not at fault and she knows it. Which is why she doesn’t want to talk about it further with you. It’s easier for her to continue to blame you if she doesn’t talk to you.
If her understanding of the material was so low as to be confused by your answer, then she doesn’t deserve to pass. Her future patients will be better off if she fails.
In future, remember this lesson and don’t be tempted to help someone cheat.
Let me get this straight, she’s asking you for the answers on a test, misunderstood the answer you hgave her, and this is YOUR fault?
NTA. Tell her if she can’t understand the answers you give her, maybe she should study the material rather than ask you for the answers.
ESH for cheating. Both of you need to go re-read your code of conduct and be grateful you’re not being automatically failed for the exam and referred for a Fitness to Practice hearing.
ESH
You’re both cheaters. She shouldn’t have asked, you shouldn’t have answered. Shut up and take your exam.
Anyway, it sounds a bit like she’d have failed the test anyway. And she’s being pretty stupid to blab about this to everyone. Good luck keeping this news from getting to the proctor.
If you had explained properly, it would still be the same situation, which is that this constitutes cheating on both your parts. ESH. She shouldn’t have asked. You shouldn’t have answered.
In order to be a competent nurse, your classmate needs to know the material. Full stop.
Asking you to “clarify” the process — which she should have understood without any assistance (if there were ambiguity in the question itself, she should have asked the proctor) — indicated that she didn’t fully understand the process, and that she needed to cheat to get information she should have already known. By trying to help her, you were also cheating.
Do you want nurses out there who don’t know what they’re doing? I don’t.
ESH. Stop cheating.
The most horrifying part of this is that you can pass anything with a 60% grade while training for a role where if you make a mistake people can be seriously injured or killed.