I (15m) and my friend (16f) have been friends since the dawn of time. She has been with me through thick and thin and she lives 2 doors down from me. Now, i know that she has a problem with drugs, as well as very bad mental health. I’ve been trying to help and support her but it’s been hard. Recently, she’s been getting more snappy and has been mistreating me in ways i’ve never been mistreated before. About a week and a half ago, my dog died and she made fun of me for being sad. I blamed it on her coping with humour and tried to ignore it. Since then, shes been excluding me from conversations, avoiding walking home with me, talking over me when i am in a conversation, and making fun of any person i think is remotely attractive. she tried to humiliate me in front of a guy i thought was cute simply because she has a past with him.
eventually, i snapped at her. i said that her poor mental health was no excuse for treating me like shit and that she was humiliating to be around because of how unpredictable she is. i went on and on about her flaws, and we were in front of a group of people. she stormed away and one of my other friends said "holy crashout" to me. i feel bad for snapping like that, but shes also been so rudedd to me. so, AITA for snapping at my best friend?
NTA.
You didn’t snap out of nowhere. You snapped after weeks of being treated like garbage. Mental health struggles can explain bad behavior, but they don’t excuse it, and it definitely doesn’t give her permission to humiliate you, mock your grief, or sabotage your friendships and crushes.
Could you have handled it more privately? Sure. But she also chose to mistreat you publicly, repeatedly. You finally set a boundary, it just came out louder because you’d been pushed past your limit.
If she’s truly your friend, she’ll reflect on this instead of acting like you committed a war crime by finally sticking up for yourself.
ever since ive snapped at her (last friday) shes been very passive aggressive to me. i tried to talk to her earlier today and she just said “im not being passive aggressive, im just stating facts. sorry that you cant understand my tone.”
ESH. Your friend has been treating you badly for a while which is NOT okay. However, you let the anger boil and publicly humiliated her, making you just as bad in that moment. You should have had a conversation with her a while ago to express your feelings.