Last weekend I went to an outdoor BBQ at a friend’s house. Our kids are friends and there was one other family in attendance who also have kids that are friends with us. I messaged in the group chat asking the homeowner if I could bring the dogs along. They are 3yo Labrador retrievers and the kids of all families love them. The homeowner said yes and the other family in attendance thumbs-up’d the message. I know they don’t have allergies to dogs as they’ve been to ours many times and been fine with the dogs.
We were outside relaxing and chatting while the kids were playing on the lawn with the dogs. The dogs were running around and enjoying themselves too. Obviously being both male dogs they like to mark and would occasionally stop to take a wee in the bushes etc. At one point my kid came up to me and said "Jake did a poo" so I went over and cleaned it up. I bagged it and took it home with me to throw out when we left. The other dog did a poo right in front of myself and the home owner. I again cleaned it up straight away.
The homeowner sent me a message later that night saying I should have taken them to toilet beforehand, and that it’s gross letting them toilet in plain sight. I didn’t see the big issue…I cleaned it up, dogs poop. He didn’t have to sit there watching the dog poop. I get that some people don’t like dogs, but he let me bring them. I apologised but really don’t see the issue.
NTA – do they think you can force dogs to poop right before you leave the house? Allowing dogs into your home means accepting they might go poop someone imo
NTA Do they think dogs can poop on demand? lol
Training dogs to poop on demand actually is pretty easy. It’s one of the first things taught to assistance dog candidates of any kind (guide dogs, hearing dogs, seizure/diabetes/heart alert dogs, mobility dogs, etc) and a lot of other working dogs (drug and explosive detection dogs, security dogs, K-9 units, etc).
NTA. It’s not like the dog pissed on the sofa and shit on the bed. It was outside, where dogs do those things.
Nta. Unless you are constantly watching for signs that they’re going to go poo, they’re going to poo wherever and whenever the need calls regardless if others like it or not. I understand not wanting it left in the yard but to get all bent out of shape over it is uncalled for.
NTA. It it’s ok to bring the dogs, why is it not ok that they pee or poop? Taking them to toilet beforehand wouldn’t remotely guarantee they wouldn’t go again, they’re dogs. You cleaned up their waste that’s all you can do🤷🏻♀️
NTA its a dog and not the same with human. The homeowner must understand that
NTA, but the title is misleading. You did supervise your dogs, and cleaned after them.
NTA, it’s a dog, not a human that can ask where the bathroon is…….when you gotta go you gotta go….it’s not like he pooped inside.
Don’t really see the issue
NTA. Dogs go to the bathroom when they want and you did good on cleaning up after them when they went to the bathroom. The only way you’d have been at fault was IF you had left the dog poop for the homeowner but you didn’t do that.
The homeowner doesn’t understand that just like a human can’t shit on command, dogs can’t either. At most, they might hold themselves back with training, but usually there is a cue for them to let their human know they need a bathroom break and the human follows through to get them to an acceptable potty location asap.
NTA, but here’s the honest truth – nobody really wants your dogs around. They are your dogs, and they would much prefer you left them at home.
This is a never ending story. When will people get that nobody else gives a shit about their dogs and in general people would really prefer if you left them at home where they belong.
Edit: I say the above as someone who loves dogs.
I’m really not sure this is true? A lot of my friends and family are disappointed if I turn up without my dog. It completely depends on the person/people.
If they didn’t want them then they shouldn’t have said yes. There is zero harm in asking as long as you respect the answer.
NTA but next time don’t bring the dogs. It would seem they are not as enjoyed as you think they are