So I was chillin home. When my father told me that I need to go and help my brother with his maths studies, and so I did. I got a bit mad while teaching and my father came in rushing, he started talking abt how I need to be calmer and all that. In the end I calmed down and the food he was making got burned. Like idk.
Edit: maybe i didn’t give enough info. My father didn’t rush, he came and checked on us, he then asked why I was mad and I explained the dumb method that my brother was using and he agreed and started explaining to him, my brother was also being rather stubborn. I then told my father that he can leave and go back to his food and that I can teach him instead. He stood with us for like 5 minutes before going and he checked the food for a moment then came back and checked on how we were doing. But then when he went back the food was burned and he got really mad, I even offered to make him the same dish he burned, but I may have been a bit mad with it cuz he was suddenly blaming me and my brother when I told him that he can go and keep his eyes on the food. And he started saying that whatever I would make that he wouldn’t even eat it.
Always try to keep calm and be patient, it will serve you well my young friend.
Also you will eat less burnt food as a result.
This is the way
If you get frustrated cause your brother doesnt understand, try to explain in a different way. Try to find what works for him. For you a perfect moment to get some experience in teaching.
Yta
As the youngest I had my sister and brother both help me and since I was really dumb growing it would always result in either of them losing their patience and snapping. That never helped me to learn faster never made the info make sense in my brain, only made me think damn I really am that dumb. Now as a grown adult who’s worked with kids for almost 11 years now, I can tell you patience and a level head is how you teach even the difficult student.
Not gonna call you the AH cause it happens, we’re only human, humans have breaking points.
YTA (probably; you didn’t give us very much info).
Helping your brother with math homework shouldn’t lead to a situation where you get so upset that your Dad feels the need to “come in rushing.”
Maybe not rushing, but he did come in and check on us and asked why I was mad. And so after explaining what happened he started explaining to my brother instead who was being rather stubborn. But then I told him that it’s ok I can teach him he can go and make his food. He didn’t and stayed for a bit. He then left checked the food for a moment then came back and I had calmed down and explained everything. But then after going back to the kitchen he saw the food was burned and started blaming both of us. I told him that he can leave and I can cover it.
ESH I wonder where you learned to lose your temper like that? That being said, if you can start looking around and seeing how having a temper sets off chain reactions where people get yelled at and food gets burned, then maybe you can start to step out of this cycle. Anger feels good, but it’s a fire that consumes everything around it. Don’t let your father’s destiny be yours.
I home school. I don’t expect elderst boy to assist youngest with homework. I’d rather see you help with dinner personally. That’s a skill everyone needs. Dad should help with homework.
YTA. Trust me, I know how frustrating it can be to help a sibling or child with their math homework. The “confused child and angry dad at the dinner table doing math work” is a meme for a reason. But calling your brother’s method “dumb” and being rude or mean to him isn’t the solution. It’s only going to discourage him from making progress. If you’re going to help him out, you have to work on your patience and change your tone so that he feels supported.
Yta
Original post: OP gets mad enough that dad has to rush in and tell him to calm down
OP’s ‘edit’ after being called an AH: OP was perfectly patient saint and dad yelled at him for completely unrelated reason
NTA. Why tf is your dad not helping his own child with their homework??? This isn’t your responsibility