I apologize in advance for any grammatical errors. I (19 female) have a best friend (19 female). We’ve been friends for about 8 years. When we were 14 she started liking this one guy like crazy. Me and this guy had mutual friends so we met him with them. She liked him for about 2 years but no one knew except me. She never made move, she was just friendly with him but nothing else so that guy didn’t even know she liked him. His friends were my close friends so we would hang out almost every day but after 2 years we kinda went our on ways. When she was 16 she finally forgot about him. It’s been 3 years and I totally forgot this guy. But last month my friend from work invited me oh her birthday where I saw him for the first time in years. He changed so much. When we saw each other and talked it felt amazing like nothing changed. After that he told me we should meet up and we did. Very soon I realized he was totally different person more grown up and perfect. I feel so safe and comfortable with him. We started to meet and text each other more and more and every day it feels even more amazing. I can tell this guy has feelings for me. And I feel the same. But I don’t know what to do or how to tell my best friend. I know guy your friend liked is off limits but it’s been years and we were kids back then….. so please tell me AITA for liking my friends ex crush? What should I do?
NTA If your friend is a true friend and wants what’s truly best for you she’ll let you continue talking to this guy. But if she tries to stop you, you need to decide what’s more important to you, your friendship or a potential relationship.
NTA. I’m not your age, so perhaps I don’t understand youth etiquette these days, but I’d say she had every opportunity to express her feelings and didn’t, plus she moved on years ago, so I think you’re free to explore something with him. Might be nice to give her a heads-up though so she’s not blindsided, but don’t couch it as asking for permission, rather just a life update. Tell her it happened organically, you didn’t pursue him and you really don’t want it to be awkward.
NTA – you guys were kids back then and nothing ever happened between the two of them. I’d find it very strange if she did get angry/hurt by your fancying him.