I (17ish, F) have a sibling who is a professional athlete – which is something I don’t tell people often, to keep my privacy. We have different last names, so people don’t always realize that I’m that person’s sibling. I prefer to be discreet about it. It’s come up a few times at school thanks to stupid people, but never been an issue, a lot of people know but a lot don’t.
Recently, I got into a situationship with someone. I didn’t mention my sibling, I wanted them to get to know me first without that aspect of everything. Things were going well, until that someone found out. They’re now upset that I didn’t tell them and said that I should have been honest from the beginning.
AITA for not telling someone my sibling is a professional athlete?
NTA, you get to choose what parts of your life you share with who
NTA. Eventually the topic would have to come up, but if it’s early stages of a relationship you don’t need to share that info with somebody until you feel comfortable
NTA. They wanted you to tell them this immediately? Personally I would find someone mentioning that their sibling is a professional athlete on the first date as entitled…
I always worry that I’m going to sound bratty if I mention it so that’s another reason I don’t
NTA. You are not entitled to sharing parts of your life unless you feel like doing so – a lesson that you should remember as you grow into adulthood with what I assume is a somewhat recongizable sibling
NTA Your sibling isn’t you and you don’t owe anyone an explanation.
NTA. I can’t see why it was important information for them to know immediately…
NTA, would it have changed their view of you? If so. Then they are not worth your time.
Also. 17 and in a situationship?
NTA. Does he wanna date your brother or something? I don’t get why he is mad. How immature are they
NTA whether or not your sibling is a pro athlete doesn’t affect the relationship so there is no need to disclose it. The person you’re in a situationship with is being immature or has other motives now that they know
NTA, weird to base your relationship on your sibling
NTA. I was friends with a guy in college for months before I found out his dad was a very famous D1 men’s basketball coach. I actually really respected that he didn’t use his dad for popularity.
NTA.
But this tells you a whole lot about the other person. Take it as a sign that their priorities don’t align with yours and consider moving on.
NTA. I have a very similar situation—someone in my immediate family is very well known. I don’t disclose it right away for the same reason—I like people to get to know me first before I tell them. People who haven’t lived this don’t understand that it can change the way someone looks at you and treats you when they find out you’re closely related to someone very successful and/or famous. Reacting with anger is WEIRD. Honestly, get away from this person. I’m in my late 30s and no one’s ever reacted by being upset; every person who has found out later has respected and understood or tried to understand my decision.