So, I have a group chat with my cousins, and one of them said something passive aggressive to me, I did kind got upset about it and didn’t answer to the group chat for like two weeks, also I was kinda of busy, now she’s not talking to me, apparently she is mad at me, one of them told to send her a text asking if she’s mad but honestly I don’t want to because I’m not upset anymore and I don’t get why she’s angry at me because I got upset by her comment. So AITA for not wanting to text her first ?
NTA, don’t text first, it’s on her to apologize.
I don’t have enough info. It could have gone a few ways.
She may not be aware that you took what she said as being passive aggressive. She may only be aware that you started ignoring her. T text messages can generally be read in several different ways depending on the time assumed by the reader.
You may have pissed her off, at which point she tried to address it without being aggressive and ended up being pass agg. But that doesn’t mean you have nothing too apologise for first.
She may be a ridiculous drama llama, but I can’t tell without context.
Either which way, the best way to solve it is by communicating like grown ups. It doesn’t sound like either of you want to do that.
Hard to tell without knowing what she said in the first place.
>one of them said something passive aggressive to me, I did kind got upset about it and didn’t answer to the group chat for like two weeks
Some might say that going silent for two weeks because you’re upset is also a bit passive aggressive.
>now she’s not talking to me, apparently she is mad at me
And so the cycle continues.
>I don’t want to because I’m not upset anymore and I don’t get why she’s angry at me
Until one of you speaks up, this petty BS will not end.
ESH if you all are older than 13.
This whole thing is a jumble of miscommunication. And there’s a lot of context missing.
When she said the passive-aggressive thing, did you address it then and there or just go silent? Not telling her why you were upset but disappearing could be the catalyst for this whole thing.
That being said, if she is the one who said the upsetting thing and knows that she upset you, then ideally, she’d reach out to you first. She might not though.
But you’re family – maybe you’re close, idk, you have a group chat so I’m guessing so – so maybe just reach out, clear the air, and move forward.