So me 18 f a senior in high school is home with my sister 5 f and brother 17 m and we’re out of school for thanksgiving break. So we get allowance for cleaning the kitchen living room and bathroom. So when my mom get home she come inside we got the groceries Out of the car for her and helped put them away then went to our rooms. The problem is that she called us into her room and did that come yell about us not cleaning her room something we never do because it is a grown woman’s room so we try and not be in there when she’s not home. But she got mad because we can’t read her mind to know to clean up her room. So am I the problem for not wanting to clean my mom’s room?
Is it something you were told to do? Has been a thing you usually do?
If not, your mom needs to express what needs to be done.
NTA for not cleaning your mom’s room
No it’s not it’s something we do sometimes to be nice but it’s not something we usually do
Absolutely not, contrary to belief there’s unspoken rules that exist in every household. I relate to your mention of not being in a grown woman’s room as that’s how I was raised as well. Not your fault, sometimes parents are just like that. Can’t win, just push through it. If you’re not too upset about it, maybe you could joke about it with your siblings to soften the blow?
You’re NTA unless you kids are the ones who messed up her room, which I doubt. A person old enough to have kids your ages is certainly old enough to clean up her own room.
Huh? WTF?
My mom used to get like this when I was in high school. You’re NTA. My mom would do this when she had a rough day or something trying to take out here anger or frustration on me. You’re mom just needs to learn better tactics to decompress and deal with her frustration instead of taking it out on her kids.
Yep 99% of the time no parent wants their kids in their room, but every once in a while you were meant to read their mind. Happens with other chores too.
Do what she asks and be nice about it. She’s your mom and is allowed to be crazy and unreasonable once in while. God knows she puts up with you all. The fact that you get paid to do regular household chores is amazing to me.
She’s a grown ass woman. She can clean her own room up. She is the exclusive reason for that mess. No one else made it for her. As a parent myself you don’t get to blame your kids for not cleaning up messes you made. lol Don’t be a lazy.
She’s paying for everything and feeds and clothes them. Her house her rules. She deserves respect and if she wants them to get off their phones and clean the whole darn house she has a right to and shouldn’t need to pay them. If you’re a mom and don’t require anything from your kids then that’s your choice.
Kids aren’t your slaves. The fact is that no kid chooses to exist. Your job as a parent is to take care of your kids. They owe you nothing at all. You chose to bring these kids into the world and now they’re your responsibility. They can’t go anywhere even if they want to.
While I think chores are important for many reasons, I don’t think expecting your kids to clean a mess in your room that you exclusively created is fair at all.
Make up your mind. You didn’t know to, or don’t want to?
NTA. My mum used to say no dishes left in sink, and leave kitchen and living room tidy when she got home. You aren’t a mind reader. She probably had a tiring day. Maybe you and sibs can make some cookies or something (clean up after selves) or do a few extra bits to make mom feel loved.