So me (19m) and my best friend (20f) were just walking around college chatting just like everyday. Then while we were sitting on a bench resting from an uphill she brought up how she had feelings for me a year ago but I was too dumb to notice, and the fact that she wanted to kiss me like 3 times during that period until she got into a relationship with her current boyfriend.
Fast forward an hour and we’re in a classroom just chatting when she suggested giving me my first kiss since I never had it (she had her first kiss already). I went "fuck it I don’t mind" cause I was fed up of waiting and her being my first wasn’t such a bad idea. we had a slight awkward moment and me getting too scared to do it until she pulled me by my hoodie and kissed me. And ngl it felt awesome.
My problem here is that I think I’m starting to catch feelings for her, and if I do I might fuck up our entire friendship, not to mention that she has a boyfriend rn.
Do I talk to her about how I feel or do I just keep my feelings to myself?
She kissed you while having a boyfriend? Even if you tell her your feelings and she starts dating you, what tells you she won’t be kissing another guy behind your back?
well she spends all her time with me and all her guy friends are friends in common with me. but idk tbh I just don’t think she will
the other guy prolly thinks the same dawg 😭✌️good thing ts not real
Well you both sound incredibly mature. She seems like she has good morals. I can’t really see where pursuing a relationship would go wrong.
Bro had me in the first half.
Two things.
1. Reflect on your personal values. Do you feel comfortable with kissing someone who’s in a relationship with another person? If not, then recognize that it’s okay to not want to kiss such a person, and align your actions accordingly.
2. You should tell your friend that you don’t want to hear her feelings of romance and attraction for you as long as she’s dating someone else. You can tell her you’re open to staying friends, and remind her what kinds of interactions you’re still okay with.
1. I don’t
2. She doesn’t have feelings for me tho, she still views us like siblings. Her feelings are all towards her bf
Fine, but you should tell her you don’t want to hear about her wanting to kiss you, or suggesting that she kiss you.
You could share how these are things you want to reserve for a romantic partner, not a sibling-like friend.
She doesn’t want to kiss me. I do, which isn’t great either
the problem is I’m starting to see her as said partner and I’m scared I might lose what we already have
>She doesn’t want to kiss me.
You said she was the one who suggested giving you your first kiss. This is the kind of inciting behavior that you should tell her you don’t want to be exposed to.
Think of it this way: will it be easier to continue being friends with someone who invites you to kiss her and tells you she had a crush on you, or someone who doesn’t do that?
>the problem is I’m starting to see her as said partner
That’s why you should tell her that you want to limit your interactions to strictly platonic ones.
There’s nothing to do her boyfriend will likely find out and either they will work it out and he will want her to cut contact with you or they will break up but either way your friendship is going to change
Ts not real 😂