Update: ‘city I live in’ ofcourse. A bit of context: friend for more than two years, daily messages, talks about life struggles and all in between, being there for them thru really hard periods… I was really surprised when by sending a screenshot i saw my name saved like that. When i asked about it the answer was that it makes it easier to recognize me… I don’t know, but in that moment i felt so insignificant. Was it exaggerated to feel this way?
Nobody is TA. Your feelings are your feelings. They aren’t doing anything wrong though. It does in fact make it easier.
NAH. It makes you feel like if they need the context to remember who you are then you can’t be that important to them, yeah? I overthink things like this too and believe me I’d probably feel a bit slighted in that case too, but on the other hand maybe that’s how your friend saved your name when you first met (reasonable) but just hasn’t bothered changing it since because they just don’t put much weight behind contact names in phones. I have people I’ve known for several years and am close to saved as “[name] [company]” because that’s just how I save peoples numbers initially and they’re still my coworkers so 🤷♀️
Edit: I didn’t see
>When i asked about it the answer was that it makes it easier to recognize me…
Uhh ignore everything I just said lol, still probably not a friendship-ending-level slight because everyone has their quirks with their devices and organization etc but you’re not T A for feeling a bit miffed
INFO:
Does he have any other friends/family/people in his life with the same name as you?
Do you live in the same city?
Do you like him as more than just a friend and might be in denial of said feelings?
I think you’re over thinking it. Maybe they put you in that way a while ago, it doesn’t mean they don’t care about or recognize you.
YTA jesus you are trying to micromanage peoples phones contacts organization.
Yeah, it helps to have descriptors there.
NAH, feelings are what they are – and maybe you are feeling more for them than they are for you.
You would be the AH if you call him out on it though – it might be as simple as he knows someone with the exact same name in another city.
Don’t overthink it.
Maybe its because he has more than 1 friend with your name. I have 4 friends with the same name so I put their cities next to their name or their partners name lol. I dont find that offensive.
I never change the name of anyone in my phone. If you’re entered as “Bob Tuesday Pilates” in my phone, that’s how you’ll be forever. Let it go, it’s not that big of a deal.
ETA YTA
Honestly, I do think YTA. It’s a name in a phone, it doesn’t have to have a deeper meaning.
when i meet new people i place an emoji by their name to remember where theyre from for example i worked at target and if i had someones number it would be “Amy 🎯” I met my bestfriends from target and they still have the emoji by their name. who cares? does a contact name change your relationship with this person? does it change memories youve shared and will continue to? YTA. its not a big deal.
Some of my closest friends are in my phone as their first name and the pub I met them at, after 15 years.
Soft YTA. My best friend of TWENTY years is listed in my phone as ‘Name of Friend Uni’ because we met as students at the university and I never felt the necessity to change it.
It’s normal to want to feel special, but what makes your friendship special it’s not a silly name on a phone but, as you said it, your companionship, and the way you helped each other during your struggles.
YTA
Do you know more than one person with the same name? Most people do so it becomes habit to give people categories like this. Even if you’re the only ‘Sarah’ they know, it’s probably just habit at this point.
YTA I met my best friend of 10+ years in college, she was from the same area as me. We talk daily, she is still in my phone as name-NorCal