Regret – thinking my body was indestructible in my 20s. Advice – take care of your sleep and your back, future you will thank you. Nothing steals joy like preventable pain.
Empathy is ridiculously underrated. Moreover, many of us at some point get it in our heads that we need to become a little bit feral to be attractive to women. This is simply not true. We want it to be true because aggression makes us feel powerful. But we’re not. The faster we accept that the sooner we become adults. And that’s what attracts women.
Instead of being aggressive to be attractive I think younger people should try to learn self defence to defend themselves and not to pick fights everywhere its pretty immature to pick fights all the time
Work on the skills of understanding how to build, repair, and keep connection with other humans. Connection is truly the secret to life, full stop. Your best job opportunities, relationships, and your overall health will be connected to this.
Biggest regret is thinking confidence came from trying to please others rather than from learning how to bring my own gifts to the people I was connected to. Confidence felt like something to be found through pleasing behaviors—but that never works. Pleasing behaviors do many things but confidence and real connection are two things they cannot achieve. Instead I had mentors guide me to figure out where to authentically put my energy that was my battery and didn’t take outside push for it to be alive. Deepen those things. Extract the stories and skills and lessons from those things. Then bring those back and share them with the people you are connected with and build more (and new!) connections with others who care about the things close to your authentic self. So much easier to bond with people. So much more internal energy when you’re operating from authenticity.
Stay moving, even walking a lot is fine. Stop eating fast food. I don’t mean cut back on it, I mean stop eating it. Learn to cook, buy good groceries, where sunscreen, drink water.
Make time to call your parents just to talk, and the same with your friends. Don’t just call those people when it’s to make plans or because you need something.
Taking basic care of your body and nurturing your social and emotional support network is important.
As people age they tend to fall into two categories: People who are healthy, happy and mobile… And people that aren’t.
You’ll be able to tell who is living right by the time your graduating class turns 40, it will be undeniable by 50, and it’s sad at 60. There really is no reason you shouldn’t be able to recognize someone after a few decades if they take care of themself.
You see a lot of red flags but you put up with them in order to ‘get some’. You develop feelings for her anyway and start a relationship. Then you marry her even though you know she’s a train wreck. Then she takes half your 401k in the divorce.
School Debt = Indentured Servitude. You can’t discharge it in bankruptcy and the government will garnish your wages to make you pay. Since there is no risk on the lender they are willing to loan any amount to anyone.
Private Universities are a racket and unless you are rich and can graduate with $0 debt are almost never worth the money.
Avoid keeping up with the Jones. Read as much as you can.
If pants have belt loops, wear a belt. Stand up when you meet someone and shake their hand. Avoid the redhead. Wash your balls daily. Never underestimate the power of a well fitting suit.
Practice empathy. Eat the coochie until she can’t move
Biggest regret:
Letting alcohol become a crutch earlier in life.
Talk to strangers.
Regret – thinking my body was indestructible in my 20s. Advice – take care of your sleep and your back, future you will thank you. Nothing steals joy like preventable pain.
Don’t destroy your young body making money. It’s not worth the pain the old you will suffer.
Empathy is ridiculously underrated. Moreover, many of us at some point get it in our heads that we need to become a little bit feral to be attractive to women. This is simply not true. We want it to be true because aggression makes us feel powerful. But we’re not. The faster we accept that the sooner we become adults. And that’s what attracts women.
Instead of being aggressive to be attractive I think younger people should try to learn self defence to defend themselves and not to pick fights everywhere its pretty immature to pick fights all the time
Not terribly old but in early 40s.
Work on the skills of understanding how to build, repair, and keep connection with other humans. Connection is truly the secret to life, full stop. Your best job opportunities, relationships, and your overall health will be connected to this.
Biggest regret is thinking confidence came from trying to please others rather than from learning how to bring my own gifts to the people I was connected to. Confidence felt like something to be found through pleasing behaviors—but that never works. Pleasing behaviors do many things but confidence and real connection are two things they cannot achieve. Instead I had mentors guide me to figure out where to authentically put my energy that was my battery and didn’t take outside push for it to be alive. Deepen those things. Extract the stories and skills and lessons from those things. Then bring those back and share them with the people you are connected with and build more (and new!) connections with others who care about the things close to your authentic self. So much easier to bond with people. So much more internal energy when you’re operating from authenticity.
Best luck brother.
Stay moving, even walking a lot is fine. Stop eating fast food. I don’t mean cut back on it, I mean stop eating it. Learn to cook, buy good groceries, where sunscreen, drink water.
Make time to call your parents just to talk, and the same with your friends. Don’t just call those people when it’s to make plans or because you need something.
Taking basic care of your body and nurturing your social and emotional support network is important.
As people age they tend to fall into two categories: People who are healthy, happy and mobile… And people that aren’t.
You’ll be able to tell who is living right by the time your graduating class turns 40, it will be undeniable by 50, and it’s sad at 60. There really is no reason you shouldn’t be able to recognize someone after a few decades if they take care of themself.
You see a lot of red flags but you put up with them in order to ‘get some’. You develop feelings for her anyway and start a relationship. Then you marry her even though you know she’s a train wreck. Then she takes half your 401k in the divorce.
Me too brother. Me too.
On the flipside, you spend your 20s and 30s being suspicious of women and then you end up in your 40s as a lonely cynical guy.
I totally agree with you, though, just wanted to be contrarian.
School Debt = Indentured Servitude. You can’t discharge it in bankruptcy and the government will garnish your wages to make you pay. Since there is no risk on the lender they are willing to loan any amount to anyone.
Private Universities are a racket and unless you are rich and can graduate with $0 debt are almost never worth the money.
No one fails, rid yourself of the idea of failure. You get a result. Use that result to get a better result next time.
No one is watching, no one cares. Do what you want, even if everyone thinks it’s weird.
You’re going to die, so don’t stay in unhappy circumstances. I know it sounds like hyperbole, “you could die tomorrow”, but it’s true.
I regret not taking promotions because of potential discomfort. Discomfort is growth.
Avoid keeping up with the Jones. Read as much as you can.
If pants have belt loops, wear a belt. Stand up when you meet someone and shake their hand. Avoid the redhead. Wash your balls daily. Never underestimate the power of a well fitting suit.
Practice empathy. Eat the coochie until she can’t move
Biggest regret:
Letting alcohol become a crutch earlier in life.
Edit: Learn to eat correctly at a young age.
-Don’t get married.
But if you decide to get married please date multiple ppl before making a decision.
-Save your money
-remember that people are for phases and it’s okay to be alone.
-nobody really gives a fuck about you. Keep pushing forward, keep your head up