I know this answer is about to be different for everyone. But when i say game, I am talking about flirting and overall presentation of talking. Im not talking about pickup lines or manipulation tactics. Basically the way you use your social skills to express desire.
I am curious of what other men think. And I am talking about initially. For example, alot of people counteract looks with confidence by saying looks open the door but confidence keeps it open. Technically that is still looks.
Same thing with personality, if it took a few months for a woman to find your personality attractive, that doesnt count either. What do you think matters the most in initial interest?
You’ll get a different answer for every woman on earth. So just work on being the best version of you you can be.
Which woman?
You won’t even get a chance if you don’t have the looks. Everything else builds on that.
All rich men look handsome.
Ranking them 1-10 in all 3 categories; if we assume the other 2 are a 4 so slightly below average and the one you pick is an 8; well above average; I think game will make up for the other 2 being slightly below average in picking up women. Personality will be best for making a girl interested in a long term relationship. But if the ones you don’t pick are a 2 and the one you pick is a 10; I think picking looks would be most successful for picking up girls.
Each one is a different standard for each woman, but in general.
1. Meeting her minimum standard of visual attractiveness and presentation will get you the first 2 minutes.
2. Meeting a minimum amount of charm will get you 1-3 dates depending on how charming you are.
3. Personality will seal the deal for something long term.
It’s important to note that getting to the next stage doesn’t mean the previous one doesn’t matter anymore, and there are many other factors that will be important along the way.
Attracting a woman probably game and looks. Actually building something with a woman, personality is way more important
Looks and “game” open the door. Her personality is what keeps that door open.
Money. With that you can dress better, your jokes become funnier, and your personality doesn’t matter as long as you spend some money on her.
Money and everything it brings, which all above.
If he is not my type, the rest is irrelevant. I would always see him as a friend/brother. Everything starts with a look.
Thanks for admitting it.
Yeah. To the average person, looks will go far. Personality is a great plus for something long-term.
If it takes months for a woman to find your personality attractive, she doesn’t. You just wore her down.
I am tall with an athletic frame, but thoroughly average in terms of looks. For men my age, I’m probably in the top half for looks, but nothing special. I groom carefully and meticulously, dress well.
Look. This varies with age, but for most of us, a tiny fraction of women are going to find you immediately sexually attractive. And even if she does, it doesn’t take much to kill that initial flame. The younger you are, the more pervasive this is.
So, you can go from a 3 to a 7 by taking care of the basics. You’d be appalled at how many men can’t manage basic self care like taking a shower, trimming their nails, cleaning their ears, combing their hair, taking care of their teeth. Go to the damn dentist. Wear clothes that fit. If you just spend 15 minutes grooming and thinking about your clothing choices and how you present yourself, you’re doing more than 90% of straight men.
Women are astute observers of human nature. A man who clearly has some pride and takes care of himself is more attractive simply by virtue of giving a shit. This is especially true with on line dating where you have 100% control over curating how you present yourself. If you post a picture of your sloppy ass in an oversized T-shirt with an unkempt beard and greasy, stringy hair, what message are you sending?
That you don’t even try for yourself. So you’re sure as shit not going to try for anybody else.
That’s the bar. For most women, your personality and sense of humor are going to seal the deal, but you have to pass the initial looks check and the amount of work it takes to do that is shockingly low because you’re competing with other straight men who literally don’t even wipe their asses properly. Then they whine on Reddit about how women are too picky and feminism is ruining dating.