This situation happened a few weeks ago and I’m still dealing with some hostility from my older sister’s (we’ll call her J) husband. I was picking my older sister up for my little sister’s senior night for her last home football game of the season and both my sister and her husband got in my car. I looked at my sister’s husband and told him “legally you can’t go so I will not be taking you. You are a registered s*x offender there for you cannot be on or near school property.” He said “I’ve gone to her school events before what’s the change now?” I said “YOU ARE A REGISTERED OFFENDER I WILL NOT BE RESPONSIBLE FOR SUBJECTING CHILDREN TO THAT!” He tried to pull the I’ve done it before card again and I shut him down and told him to get the h*ll out of my car.
A little bit of context both him and my sister did not inform us that he was a registered offender when they got together when I was 17 and my little sister was 13. I found out when I was 19 after getting bored and doing background checks on people and found his record.
Back to the reason I’m posting this. Since the situation happened he’s been acting really hostile towards me whenever I pick my older sister’s up to take her to work because get this he’s also a bum who can’t hold a job and hasn’t had one in almost two years. He also messed her car up which is why my mom wants me to take her to and from work. And I’ve told both my sister and my mom “if he doesn’t stop acting like this towards me I will not continue to give J the rides. He’s withholding the gas money until I’m begging J to give me it and she has to talk to him about it. She makes the money why tf does he control it?” I’m at the point of accepting and loss in money I’ve loaned them and I’m wanting to cut my sister off completely. She only stays with him because she believes the lies he’s told her about why he’s a registered offender.
The law is the law, and protecting kids always comes first.nta
Idk how you report a RSO for violating that order, but you could easily do that 🤷
NTA.
I will point out that if you know he’s been at events before, and your sticking point is you driving him, that doesn’t leave you smelling like roses, but it doesn’t matter. Whether you follow up with police or the school might require knowing what the legal requirements for SOs in your region are.
However, and you probably realize this already, reporting him will result in changes in your relationship with your sister, and you’ll need to be ready to accept that.
As to the money, you let your sister know that it comes on time or she doesn’t get picked up. Ignore any communication from him or your mother and let your sister and husband figure it out.
I didn’t know that he had been to other events until he said something. I moved back home about a year ago and this was the only school event that he’s tried to attend since I’ve been home