For context, I am turning 18 in less than a few days and want to know if my reaction is justified. I’m living with my parents and the topic of my birthday came up, and I had been talking about wanting to get another tattoo because it’s the only thing I wanted besides a piercing for that day. They said it’s fine and my mom just brushed it off and said she can talk to my dad’s friend about scheduling something, I left it at that because she has tattoos and wants more.
She then dropped the bomb saying that I’m not allowed to get any tattoos until after high school, which in turn was devastating for me because I had never expressed anything else about my birthday besides wanting a piercing and a tattoo. Which takes back her promise she made to me stating that "if you got your first tattoo as something matching with me, then you can have all the tattoos you want". So I agreed and now I have one in compliance to that, which in turn means nothing anymore (it’s a semi colon tattoo that meant the world to me)
Being upset, I just left her alone and let myself be and now she’s getting mad at me because I feel upset and is accusing me of hating her when I just feel severly hurt from this entire situation. I’ve been on the fence and instead of getting another tattoo, I just want this one removed completely. AITA?
Info are you currently a senior?
Your mother sounds like the child in this situation. I’m sorry! It’s your body so whatever you decide NTA!
lol this is exactly why you shouldn’t get tattoos so young… because there’s a very high chance you will regret them and want them removed!
YTA. But don’t worry, things will blow over with your mom.
Do you have a job? I would say save up and just go get it. You’re going to be 18 you’re a senior and honestly in my experience high schoolers liked seeing tattoos on seniors! You can go by yourself or with a friend who means a lot to you! Make a day of it! Maybe your friend is 18 and you can get matching piercings! Me and my bff did that do her 18th! Otherwise no your not the ah for wanting to remove it, but know it will be very painful and a longer process along with expensive and you may regret it in the future when your on better terms with your mom! I’m 19 and understand being angry and feeling betrayed. In the end it’s your choice and I think both sides are fair. Good luck happy birthday and keep me updated💕
YTA
There are very few things you want to tattoo on your body at 18 that you’ll want on your body at 50. Promise.
Info: Fellow semi-colon bearer, here. You said that tattoo meant a lot to you. Is it because of what it symbolizes or because you got it with your mom?
Ultimately, NTA bc it’s *your body,* and you should decide what’s on it.
NTA but what about a coverup instead??? Laser removals don’t always work completely, and you’re still left with a scar that looks like your old tattoo. I got my first tat at 18 and have no regrets. I’m 46 now. Don’t listen to the ink haters in here. Lol
You’re NTA but removing it seems petty, but you’re going to be 18 so technically she can’t stop you from getting a tattoo unless she’s going to kick you out so🤷🏻♀️
Wait until you have a career before any more body modification.
NTA, but honestly, this entire drama will seem silly to you when you are older. Also I think if you remove it or cover it, you may regret it later, as this spat will barely matter to you, but your mom will still probably matter to you.
This kind of thing (in my opinion) is why they don’t let people under 18 get tattoos—because lots of things that don’t matter seem so huge when you are younger, and it only takes a little fight like this to make a younger person decide to do something silly to “get back” at someone. Sometimes I think it should be 25 (when the brain finishes developing), but then I think we shouldn’t penalize everyone for a few immature 18 year olds, especially when older people have gotten really stupid tattoos as well.
Anyway, you can always get it covered or removed when you’re several years older, if you still want to. I would say it’s worth waiting to see if you really want this to be the stand you’re taking with your mother.
NTA she made a deal to get you to have a shared tattoo and now it turns out she lied. Nevermind that you’ll also be 18 and legally allowed to do what you want.
Tell her you dont care about gifts, just want money that you’ll save. Then you can do what you want with it
Nta. I’m sorry op that half of these people can’t get over your age. And I’m sorry your mom’s being an ass, I hope you can get some thicker skin for her nonsense cause low-key doubt if she’ll understand how hurt you are eventually. Some relationships aren’t worth the hardships
YTA. You are devastated but aren’t you graduating in like five months? Just ask for a gift card or money instead, then go get it when you graduate.