To men: have you ever changed after cheating or pushing your past partners boundaries and being disrespectful? If so, what made you change?
For others, if you have a partner who has been disloyal, do you believe they’ve actually changed or do you live with that fear of at some point they’ll do it again?
I know men and women both cheat so please save that argument, this is specifically for men that have not been loyal.
yes, obviously, like all other people,
Yes, people can change but the change must be driven internally not externally.
Anything is possible. The issue is how likely.
It usually als depends on the situation. Like a drunken one night accidental did something is not the same as a long term affair.
Some are. I never was a cheater but I have a few friends who were cheaters. With the exception of one guy the rest are in stable monogamous relationships with no cheating. People mature at different points in their lives. Also, for some guys they need the right woman.
Are you genuinely asking this or is this a thing where you’re trying to figure out if your bf will change?
Obviously anybody is capable of change if they want to change, but forcing change on someone rarely goes well for either party
They can change and it is possible but I always see it as what’s the probability of it happening. Many factors have to happen and the will to want to be better has to happen. Some men will change before it ever gets bad, some will learn the hard way and hit rock bottom, and some won’t ever change. I was one who had to hit rock bottom and be at my absolute lowest. It was there where I felt like I had nothing to lose anymore so I improved. I’m so much healthier, stronger, confident, empathetic, and patient. And everyday I try to be better. I’m sober and happy so yes they are capable of change but you can’t always wait for them either.
i have changed alot for the better i was very reclkess and irresponsible when young and it was because of that people can mature and change for the better its normal
I havn’t had a drink in three years because I wanted to be a good dad.
Yeah, I’ve never cheated but I’ve been shitty in other ways. I changed because I recognized it was shitty and didn’t want to keep making the same mistakes.
People might change but do you want to risk getting burned multiple times?
Yes indeed. After I was cheated on, I changed F partners
It’s certainly possible, but the best prediction of the future is past behavior.
Yes, but only if they want to change. Sometimes it helps to incentivise the change, but guys will change. Some of the younger ones haven’t figured out how to be polite and respectful yet
Of course not, we are born and stay the same person forever
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