I met my biological dad for the first time a couple of days ago. I had never met him before this, and a fun fact, he lives 1 hour away from me. My mom has made it clear since I was young that she is the only one who provides for me. When I was younger, I thought my sister and I had the same dad, so I remember telling her my dad would pay for it. I didn’t realize that when my stepdad and mom divorced that he was no longer my dad, so my mom made it clear that she is the only one who provides for me. That was really a core memory for me because I don’t know, I was coming to terms with the fact that I didn’t have a dad. My stepdad had been in my life since I was 2, so I was always under the presumption that he was my dad until then, because no one told me otherwise. It wasn’t until they got divorced that I realized it, and it wasn’t even told to me straightforwardly, so I don’t know, I guess I have a little trauma there.
I recently decided to get in contact with my bio dad, and we decided to go out for dinner. It was extremely awkward. I am currently getting my bachelor’s, so he told me I am the kid that is college educated despite him having 7 kids, and that really just made me more quiet. At the end of the dinner, he told the waitress to split the bill, and I don’t know why, but that deeply bothered me because he had never contributed anything to my life, and he couldn’t pay for a 26-dollar meal. I keep on thinking about it, and I get more and more irritated. I decided to block, I just dont think a relationship with the two of us is feasible. I was confiding in my friend about it, and she said that she thinks that my bio dad is foolish, but that in this particular instance, I am being a little unreasonable, and that there was no expectation set that he would pay, and that blocking him is extreme. Am I being unreasonable here…