My girlfriend says she doesnt want anything for xmas all the time. But she told me that I could do an advent calendar. One of those refillable ones with big pockets. I did ask before starting.
So every day she has opened something (half was chocolate and funny socks), and the rest was cute things she could use at work, a funko (i get her one or two every year), and stuff like that.
Shes literally been too excited to wait until i am home from work to open things and has texted me excited pictures after opening her gift for the day as soon as she wakes up.
Now that we’re getting to the end of the month, shes mad that she feels like we have too much clutter and she said I’m not listening to her and she has completely forgotten the conversation when she told me it was fine to do the advent calendar. She forgets things all the time.
She loves the gifts but now shes mad at me for getting them. We’ve also had a very difficult year (not our relationship, but other major stressors) so shes been anxious and having major up and down moods for about a year.
Now I feel bad because shes mad that I got her gifts and I dont want her to feel like shes not being heard, but also… she told me I could do it and there are no huge gifts that take up tons of space.
I dont know what I was supposed to do.