I’m 24F and my family has never been good at gift giving, i love it, i keep a track list all year long of their wants and needs and take it out every christmas. Every year, my parents and grandparents ask me for the list and i just give it to them. And i usually tell them verbal y what i want and i always know what i’m going to get.
This year i moved out, i live in the city and my parents in a very rural área, so i don’t hang out with them as much as previous years since it’s a 4 hour drive. I didn’t keep a list but i know what they like and i’m observant, so i didn’t have issue with the gifts.
The problem is that they have been relying on me buying the gifts. I have made four trips to the mall (by bus, i don’t have a car) to get everyone’s gifts. And since “i’m the only one good at wrapping” wrapping them too. I ended up buying only half the gifts and telling them too figure it out the rest themselves.
Today i was at the mall, it’s december 21st, i only went to go to the cinema, when i get a call from my dad. They don’t have my gift, they had ni idea where to find what i wanted and needed it to buy it myself with my money and then they pay me back. The only thing i wanted this year was a standing coat rack.
i hasn’t bought one myself since i only travel by bus, i didn’t want a huge ass box slowing me down or having to carry it múltiple stops or pay extra for an uber. My parents have a car and we’re celebrating christmas at my apartment.
i told him just that, and that i wouldn’t buy it, i’m not paying extra for an uber. And be said that they’re not going to show up empty handed for christmas. So i bought the rack and brought it home paying a $30 uber, but i told my parents i bought it for me, that i wasn’t wrapping it up and i don’t want them to reimburse me and to find another gift.They have been trying to convince me and im starting to feel pretty bad? Should i just do it? or do i keep it?
edit: english is not my first language, and where we live we don’t have amazon
Nta but is Amazon not a thing where they live? I live in a pretty rural town in the us and still get package deliveries. The only time I had my parents buy something for me that I couldn’t get online was when I needed a specialty fabric for my child’s school project.
we’re not in the US, we don’t have amazon
They are taking advantage of you
Bro are you fr? NTA and stop putting effort into your gifts. It’s not that they’re bad it’s that they don’t care.
I’m bad at gift giving and I still try to get everyone something they can at minimum like if not at least use.
You told them what you wanted. Something that can be understood by one Google search. All they had to do was order off Amazon or go to one store. They didn’t even bother trying, and they want to reimburse you because they feel called out.
The audacity to have you buy your own gift LMFAO
Happy Obligatory Gifting Day! I have spent many years in that situation fortunately or unfortunately, I am now in a situation where I only buy a very few gifts and don’t worry about what I am getting. I love Christmas, especially the lights and decorations and food, but the gifts really take the joy out of it for a lot of people and cause many people to go into debt and it’s really not what the holiday is about anyway. Best of luck.
NTA. How did they handle living rurally and getting Christmas gifts before you moved out? This is wild.
every year we would drive to the city, do all the shopping one day and drive back. or buy what we could find in the local stores and the rest in the city
They should keep doing that then. You need to stop doing all the work and getting no credit. Make sure you put the gifts as from you, specifically.
NTA. You don’t have to wrap your own gift. If they give you too much trouble, make a fabric bow and stick it to the coatrack. Also, stop buying the gifts. Tell them very firmly that since you are now on your own and do not have transportation, you will be unable to buy the gifts. They will need to take their car and go shopping.
Let them reimburse you. Then don’t wrap it.
I’d be tempted to just stop exchanging gifts. It doesn’t sound like anyone is doing this out of enjoyment. The vibe at this point seems to be that They don’t want the trouble but feel they have to do it.
NTA, but if you end up getting the money back, include the uber fare.
NTA
Just put a bow on it.