My grandmother passed away after a three year battle with cancer this weekend. We are a little estranged more like the black sheep of this family they do live four hours one way from us so we don’t see them much. Her funeral is supposed to be this upcoming Saturday but I have made plans with my in laws to have family photos and host a party for multiple reasons to celebrate my brother in law. He is moving on the Tuesday before New Years to different state many states away! I feel like I should choose the family that is there for me no matter what. The family I built with my husband. My husband is about to lose seeing his best friend anytime he wants. He used to live with us before we moved to our own place. My family couldn’t even make an effort to come to our wedding it seems like the only time I see them is when I make the trip because someone died. My mom is very upset with me for choosing family photos and a party over her step mom’s funeral.