so I (M15) was hanging out with my friends during a new years eve event at the park and all of a sudden someone came up to me with some kittens and she said she was giving one of them away for free because her parents said that they had too many pets in the house and she had to give some away, so i decided “whatever, i’ll take it” and i named her chanel 🥹🥹 she was soo cute too
i was carrying her around the entire new years event, people were asking to hold it/pet it/can i have it, everybody loved it but towards the end of the event and my mom was coming to pick me up i realized: there’s no way in HELL my mom is allowing me to bring a cat home, not only that, any pet is banned in our house period, because my grandma (81F) is scared of them because of some childhood event when she got bit by a dog, i don’t know all the details, but it’s gotten so bad that we can’t even have a GOLDFISH, no pets unless it’s an outside one (which i don’t think is right, pets are meant to live inside and not suffer outdoors) and even that’s not allowed sometimes, my mom (53F) wants a pet but because of my grandma’s fear we can’t and plus she’d rather a dog than a cat, but it’s so disappointing cuz i want a pet so baddd 😩
so my mom came to pick me up and i told my friends to come too so i can surprise her, she was getting irritated so i decided to spit it out and show her the cat, she said HELL no as soon as i showed her the kitten and i was disappointed, i asked my other friends if they could keep it, but they both weren’t allowed pets either, but one of them decided to keep it (she told me she had to keep it as an outside cat but while her parents weren’t home she would keep it in)
so as of right now my friend still has my little kitten chanel, i haven’t had the time to visit the kitten but i’m wondering WIBTA if i chose to bring the cat home? or if i could, i would bring it to my dad’s house cuz he’s not as strict when it comes to pets
Take it to your dads house, but either way you cannot force your neither of your parents to keep a cat, you have to talk to your dad first, ask him nicely and have a heartfelt conversation with him
Also this cat will be YOUR responsibility, and its expensive too from toys to food to litter to vet bills, its gonna cost a lot and you need to understand that.
Are you ready to give up your allowance to spend on your kitty if your dad stops affording it? Can you work part time to spend on the kitty?
YTA
Bringing home a pet without telling the other people in the house and everyone agreeing is an AH move. Doesn’t matter if you live with your parents, some roommates, your spouse – pets need to be a discussion, not a surprise.
YTA. Unfortunately its not your home, its your parents home (and therefore their rules) and your not an adult. It also sounds like your grandma has a pretty severe phobia, and she deserves to feel safe where she lives.
Also consider can you afford the food, vet care, litterbox and toys etc that kittens require? As well as spending adequate time with them?
Unfortunately, you will need to wait till you have moved out (or sadly your grandma has passed) for it to sound like having a pet is feasible (as it sounds like your mum will be open to it one day).
yeah unfortunately i’ve accepted that i’m gonna have to wait until i move out to have a pet
Yes, unfortunately YWBTA if you bring the cat home when you were already told not to. Your mom makes the rules. You can ask your dad if he would agree to it, but ask, don’t just bring the animal and hope for the best. Pets are two yeses, one no.
wait, why didn’t you find out if one of the people who asked to keep it could give it a safe & loving INDOOR home?
sadly YWTBA if you adopted a cat w/o consent of your fanily . you’ll be an adult soon, adopt 2 cats after you’re living in an apartment. just get a roommate who is cool with it – or skip adopting and get a roommate who has their own cats
you should definitely talk to your dad about it and ask to keep it at his house, and if you can’t keep the kitten please find a home for it instead of taking it to a shelter, almost every animal that ends up there stays for years or gets given to neglectful homes
Since youre 15 I won’t say YTA, but you need to learn to think things through.
Taking an animal on impulse is never a good idea. Apart from all the usual reasons, the person who gave you the kitten could have stolen it.
This is definitely something I would bring up with dad! You won’t want the cat living outside for many reasons. if your mother is strict I wouldn’t continue to push it and bring the cat home in case of them releasing the pet or sheltering etc. the cat shouldn’t really be moved from home to home you don’t want to scare or stress Chanel out at such a young age. Especially since it also need shots and to be spayed / neutered and if it’s outside risk of pregnancy (if it’s a girl) I do think you should’ve thought more about the decision before taking on a life you knew you more than likely couldn’t support. But I get you are young and I totally would’ve done something like that at your age. That being said I think you should take accountability and think of your next steps fully before making any decisions. Talk to your dad and see what he says and it’s a no go with the next steps are re homing Chanel properly with either your mom or your dads help
Poor cats. It’s kind that you tried to help.
I won’t say YTA because you are a minor and that feels rude, but you had to have known when you accepted the cat from the stranger how this would go down. If you didn’t know it then, you know it now.
You created the tension here. It’s a tough young adult lesson but you can’t keep the cat if the parentals say no. Going around their boundary will only escalate this.
Ask Dad first, and good luck!
YTA You know you aren’t allowed to keep the cat. You know you’ll be forced to get rid of it. Bringing it home anyway will only be traumatic and confusing for the cat. Pets aren’t toys. You don’t just bring one home and hope for the best. When you are an adult, with your own place, and you are properly ready and prepared to, not only look after it, but also pay for food, litter, vaccinations, worming, flea treatment and occasional vet bills, THEN you can get a cat.
This is not the right time for you to adopt a kitten, even if she is very adorable and you really want to bring her home. It will be better if you’ve found another home where she has permanent stability and someone who can take care of her on a consistent basis. You didn’t say how often you visit your dad‘s house, but you’re basically asking your dad to take this cat in and care for her while you visit occasionally. Because you live with your mom and your grandma most of the time, right so really you’re not adopting the cat you’re giving it to your dad and asking him to take care of it. This is not really a fair thing to do to your dad and you’re not really around enough to be responsible for taking care of this kitty. Unless your dad is crazy about cats and would love to have a kitten in his house, don’t even ask him if you can bring this kitty to his house. I just don’t think this is the right situation for the kitten, you can always adopt a kitty a few years down the road when you have your own place or you live in a new house where head of the household who makes the rules is OK with you bringing a cat home.
See if your friend who is keeping the kitty cat at their house right now is willing to give her a permanent home. If that’s not possible then please take her to a shelter where she can get adopted to a loving home. Don’t leave her out on the street, or try to keep her but leave her outside. That’s not a good situation for her. I want to say that it’s very sweet that you like this kitty so much and want to give her a home. You were gonna make a great cat parent somewhere down the road. It’s not like it’s never gonna happen if you don’t do it right now. It just is a later on situation, not a ‘now or never’ one. 💕
YWBTA unless you get permission first.