I already know it won’t come out looking great but I have a reason.
I (22TM) live with my mom, stepdad, and my younger sister (13F). Money’s tight for me right now, but I spend part of it to pay for half of my household’s groceries. Everyone in my house buys about the same stuff every month, but there’s one thing only my sister and I knew about: a Nutella hidden in my closet. (It’s hidden because my mom is very strict, including food)
Once a week I eat about 2 spoonfuls along with popcorn watching movies or videos and it’s almost a routine. The day before I get out of holiday vacation, I open the closet and take the Nutella… and half of the container was gone. Not “a little bit eaten,” not moved, HALF. I ask my sister and she casually goes, “Oh yeah, I ate it.”
It was not the first time she ate it. My mind started building up thoughts about how it wasn’t enough to share the bedroom, bathroom, tv, half of my gadgets, my socks, my towel, even my clothes, but no, she had to also take something I HIDE in my closet ON PURPOSE. I lost it. I rambled about how that was one of the only things I could have for my own, how I’d told her before not to touch my food, how I value my personal stuff. She looks at me with boredom and says “calm down, gang. I was on my period”. I let out a big yell, and we don’t talk the rest of the day.
I snapped and said she doesn’t respect me at (which was something she has already said before) and that she’s selfish.
Now everyone’s acting like I’m the villain who screamed over a container of Nutella.
So… AITA?
NTA. I hate when people purposely eat things that are very clearly hidden for a reason lol
NTA exactly, there’s a lot going on here and I’m sorry you’re in the situation you’re in. Your sister is 13, and I’d guess you’re not really that mad at her, you’re angry about your whole life situation and you’re taking it out on her in this moment. See if you can sit down and think though how much of the frustration is really because of what she did vs it being the straw breaking the camel’s back and you’re stressed out and frustrated having to help support your whole family and the sacrifices involved in living in what sounds like relative poverty.
Nta but maybe just overreacting a bit
You’re 22. You shouldn’t be in this situation anymore. No wonder you snapped. You should have your own space and food autonomy. Your sister clearly isn’t bothered, so I wouldn’t worry about losing it at her.
If you’re buying groceries, your mom ‘being strict about food’ shouldn’t apply. Get a lock box.
I would buy a lockbox.
They are pretty cheap.
The issue is respect for your choices, that won’t change, so lock it up.
NTA but does the sister get an allowance, or some votes on the groceries, or anything?
NTA I tell my fiancé and 12 year old son when I buy some food specifically for myself and I make sure they don’t want me to buy more if they decide it sounds good and they know not to touch it. (I have a note pad for them to write down whatever they need from the store and i double check they don’t want any extra before I go grocery shopping)
I don’t get a lot of things for just myself living with a fiancé and a child, so when they cross that line, I do lose my shit. If I was a dog, I’d be put down for food aggression 🤷♂️ don’t touch my friggen food. End of story. 🫡
Girls get hungry. I wouldn’t be angry, but every time I talked to her, or about her, I’d mention AGAIN that she owes me eight bucks from eating my Nutella cake.
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Just get one of those locking containers for snacks and don’t give anyone the code. They come in all sizes
NTA. she should try that in federal prison. Doubt she’d do it again, lol