I lost my best friend of 3 years about a year and a half ago. We parted ways because we had a minor argument. In retaliation (more so as a coping strategy and to get my anger out) I wrote a short story about us. I had posted it anonymously, and never sent it to anyone I knew. It was very vulgar and I’d prefer not to specify otherwise, but I had forgotten about it a few weeks after.
A couple months later, we reconvened and were talking. Some days after we started talking, she claims she found the story and said she never wanted to talk to me anymore. I had completely forgotten about this story, and I felt guilty for making her feel so bad.
Now, a year and a half later, I get a comment on that exact same story. She details how I “ruined her life” and caused her PTSD, got her sent to a mental institution, “permanently changed her”, etc. She kept saying “you won. you got what i wanted”, as if i did it all intentionally
Am I the asshole for just…not caring? Did I really cause all of that? Or is she projecting her own struggles onto me, making it seem like it’s 100% my fault? I spent a long time feeling bad, but it was just something to get my feelings out, nothing with extreme malicious intent.
YTA for posting it
“As if I it all intentionally” did you fall into a fugue and accidentally write an obscene story about a real person descriptive enough for them to recognize themselves and post it? And now you don’t even care that they were upset by it? Of course YTA
ESH. You shouldn’t have posted it, but she is responsible for her own mental health.
YTA for being vague with details but clear about being shitty
You could have just kept it in word or a journal. Nothing you do online is ever truly anonymous. That WAS intentional. You made a choice and this is the consequence.
If it upset her that much, something tells me the real reason you aren’t sharing it is because it is in fact that bad. YTA.
ESH
If you posted it anonymously, how did she know it was about her? Where was this posted? If you identified her, definitely YTA.
right? where tf was it posted was my first question, and then how the friend found it, and somehow magically was able to figure out it was about them even though there were no identifying details, and just WTF why am i even wasting my time reading this shit 😂
It was a story on AO3 (cringe, I know) and the scene was incredibly specific, which is the only defining feature I could think of. I did not use our names.
I dunno. It’s a bit sus that she only gets really upset about it all a year and a half later not when she first brought it up. And since when are people not allowed to express their feelings or personal stories publicly? What, only artists can do that? They state they didn’t use names and it was all anonymous and yet everyone is say Y T A. I’m confused. Maybe OP’s ex bff is only feeling this way out of guilt.
You admit you wrote a vulgar, derogatory short story about your friend, she found it, and you wonder why she’s upset with you? Once it’s on the internet, it’s there forever and I think you did it on purpose so she’d see it. You’re trying to take the high road but the fault is all on you. You could have just walked away and not go online and trash her… YTA.
INFO why would you post it if you didn’t do any of it maliciously?
YTA. You wrote a vulgar story about someone with enough detail for the person to know it was you and they were talking about them. Come on now.