This is my first long term relationship and its been about 9 months. I went to see my family for Christmas and he went to see his. We were apart for 2 weeks. When I returned late Thursday I went to see him on Friday after work. I was excited to show him photos of my new niece. I talked about my family and our adventures. Keep in mind I had just got back at about 9pm then went to work the next day. So this was my first time to process everything that had happened. I was very very tired. As I was showing him and talking I noticed his demeanor change and he got snarky about my niece. I thought that was odd. Then he said "I thought this night was just going to be about us and im disappointed with the night." I went quiet and was saddened because I was excited to tell him about my new niece. He went for a walk and came back super remorseful. Apologized and said he just missed me a lot and put too much pressure on the night. I told him i was mad and that my famioy matters alot to me. We spent the weekend together and we worked it out. I just can’t help but feel that was odd. Anyone else experience this?
Seriously? You have a selfish, self-serving centered manbaby on your hands. Good grief. Good luck with that.
Very weird response from him. Missing you should mean that he wants to hear all about your time. Like what did he expect? Just to hook up? When you care/miss someone, you want to know what they were up to, see those pictures, you’d be happy they are happy.
Sounds like you made him a priority too. Got home late, went to work, next thing was seeing him, when it probably would have been easier to get back into bed again.
Sounds like he had a certain idea for the night, I am guessing sex, and it didn’t go that way so he was stuck. Went on the walk and realized he was wrong.
Yeah, I was mad because I could easily have chilled at home but made him a priority. But I was exhausted, and that behavior definitely made sex go off the table! He was very apologetic and realized he fucked up bad. We talked about it, and things got easier as the next day went on. It was just our first real argument
It is good that this still lingers in your mind. You shouldn’t forget this is how he acted simply because he realized he messed up and apologized.
What you can do now, assuming you want to stay in the relationship, is see if he does it again. Does “us time” just mean sex to him? Does he value different things than you?
We have sex once or twice a week. I wouldn’t say that’s our focus. We go on dates and spend time together outside of it. We do have similar values. Which is why it caught me soo off guard. After almost a year together, that was the first I had seen him act that way. Like he wanted my undivided attention, but with my fatigue and whiplash from my travels, it just wasn’t possible. I’ll keep an eye out to make sure this isn’t a trend in the future. I stood up for myself and made sure he knew that wasn’t okay and wouldn’t fly with me.
It’ll show its ugly again a few times in the future.