Bit of a backstory- my boyfriend (29M) and I (27F) have been together for 2 years.
Today we were having an argument about politics (we have opposing views). I said multiple times in this argument that I did not want to talk about this as it can get heated. We have different views and that’s fine. He continued the argument so I picked up my phone and went on TikTok. He is very upset with me. He told me it is very disrespectful and rude.
I have since apologised to him but he is ignoring me and very angry. I asked if he wanted to leave my house and cool off but he said no as he’s done a lot of travel today.
I know I could’ve possibly handled it better but I’m still unsure if his reaction is warranted.
So, am I the a-hole for picking up my phone after repeatedly asking to change the subject and explicitly telling him I don’t want to talk about this?
NTA he’s TA. You set a clear boundary he continued to push and now he’s punishing you for breaking your boundary. He is being childish and immature.
It’s pretty rude, but it sounds like ESH and you need to learn to argue better if this relationship is one you want to keep long term. That said it sounds like your beliefs and values are already misaligned so… That could be fun.
You asked him repeatedly to respect your wishes as you realised the argument was going nowhere and was fruitless.
You asked him to leave your home and he refused.
His lack of respect for you is concerning.
NTA.
NTA. You are right to end that conversation. And you are right also to be comfortable to have differing views about this subject, it doesn’t mean you aren’t compatible. If that was the case, I don’t think many people would be compatible as not everyone agrees with everything.
Your BF is TA here. And he is digging his own grave. Continuing this way is a surefire way for things to end abruptly.
Stomp your feet gal! Stick up for you!
You know what else is disrespectful and rude? Ignoring your partner’s asks to stop the conversation. NTA.
NTA if you clearly stated that the discussion is over and then tried to move on multiple times only for him to keep on trying to argue then the phone is just self preservation.
It sounds like he needs to win. Some of the best advice I have ever had is that you can be right or you can win an argument but rarely can you have both
You’re only the AH because you apologised. He forced the issue and refused to listen when you said you did not want to discuss it. You apologising has given him the power to manipulate you.
Well “grandad” I am pretty sure your age and sex are made up. As is the length of this “relationship” based on your post history. Farm elsewhere. YTA.
Single and 23yo 1 year ago, now 27 and in a 2 years relationship, riddle me this
Always check the user accounts…
Don’t date people with incompatibility beliefs
NTA
it’s not disrespectful to leave a situation that you have repeatedly said you don’t want to be in. NTA
however, as much as there is to learn from someone with different viewpoints as yourself, a gentle warning that staying partnered with someone like that is extremely hard on relationships, both your relationship with each other and also your relationship with others.
He’s not gonna give up until he “wins”. (I.e. beats you).
If he refuses to leave *your* house you have a problem.
You should not be apologizing. He sounds like the one who is disrespectful and rude.
Sounds like your views about life in general don’t align and you aren’t compatible if this is a recurring issue and is affecting your relationship.