WIBTA if I never cook for him again? To sum everything up we got into a big fight while he was at work on lunch and I mentioned how disrespectful he was being and I asked him how he could be so mean to someone that literally cook him dinner and lunch almost everyday. He replied back saying since he’s being so disrespectful he’s just not gonna eat the lunch I made and he threw it in the trash and sent me a picture of it….I was very hurt by his actions and now I no longer want to cook him anything.
EDIT: the fight was over his gambling addiction..he pays the rent and I cook every day and buy groceries every week. I also pay for lights, wifi, household supplies, body care products, and my phone bill while he just pay rent and gamble the rest of his money.
NTA but I think your problems are bigger than him throwing food away.
Quick q why are you dating someone who doesn’t like you
NTA he’s being a petulant child; having been in a relationship with a man just like this, I’m certain he’s done it before; given his willingness to be so immature and mean in a fight with someone he alleges to love, this is a relationship-ending offense.
This is a toxic relationship that needs to be over . Neither of you benefit . No you wouldn’t be an asshole if you never cook for him again. Then ask yourself , what’s the point of being with someone you can’t/won’t ever cook for again . Can’t you see that the fact that you need to ask this question is a problem in itself? Relationships are suppose to be harmonious, this is not that .
NTA
There is no world in which someone who respects you would throw away food you have made for them to make a point. Don’t cook for him again and please reconsider this relationship, it doesn’t sound healthy at all.
NTA. Throwing away food you cooked and *sending you a picture* is intentionally cruel, not just angry. That’s not a disagreement—that’s disrespect meant to hurt you. Cooking for someone is care and effort, not an obligation. If he can weaponize it during an argument, it’s completely reasonable to stop doing it. Honestly, the bigger issue isn’t the food, it’s how he handles conflict.
NTA. Why on earth would you want to continue a relationship with him?
YTA for worrying more about your food that got tossed in the garbage than you do about your own mental health, feelings, and self respect. Why are you with this loser! Chuck him into the garbage along with that final meal you’ll ever cook him. Love yourself.
What were you arguing about??
NTA
Throw him away.
NTA, and why are we not discussing your ex boyfriend?
INFO
There isn’t enough information here about the living situation, ages, how long you’ve been together, or why you were fighting.
On the small amount of information, his cruelty appears to be just that, but there are so many details left out that it’s difficult to be objective.
NTA. But why bother. Not cooking for someone ever again would be better translated into finding someone who appreciates your efforts.
NTA. Throwing away food that was prepared for you is so offensive and hurtful. And make no mistake, he did it to offend and hurt you. They weren’t byproducts.