I (14f) have two sisters (18F & 10F). I share a room with my older sister (let’s call her A) and my younger sister (B). I’ve been sharing a room with them since the moment I was born. It’s frustrating since one’s an adult now, I’m a teenager and B is a pre-teen. But here’s the problem. A always tell B and I that it’s not just our room, and I understand that it’s not just my room, but it’s not just hers either. Me and B don’t like when the window is open (keep in mind it’s winter and it’s cold), and it’s especially hard for B since her bed is right by the window and it’s colder at night than it is during the day. I don’t like it either. I don’t mind if it’s cracked because our room does tend to get a little hot some nights, but A likes to open it more then it already is. Whenever I confront her about she’ll say that it’s not just my room. I’ve been trying to ignore it but today I kind of snapped because I’m getting frustrated. I told her that it’s not just her room either, and right now 2 out of 3 people agree that the window should be closed or cracked at night. I told her that if she doesn’t like that the window is closed then she should start saving money to move out, but I think it was a little mean, but I’m not sure since she says way worse things to me and B. So, AITA for finally snapping?
edit: I forgot to add that when I said she should move out I also said that she’ll be able to control what happens all she wants.
NTA. Tell her to sleep with an ice pack, cooling blanket, frozen water bottle, blanket from the freezer, etc.
Could you have been kinder when you said it, yeah, probably, but also, it’s not just about her. Can you rearrange the room so she isn’t the window?
Our room is a bit messy and it’s also hard to move the beds around since our room isn’t that big. If we ever move the beds around it’s usually just to put them against the wall or something. I will tell her about the ice pack and those options though, thank you! 🙂
It may be worth moving things around if it’ll keep the peace. If you’re in the us, rent is super high in a lot of places and it’s hard to figure out how to live out at 18 when you would have to have thousands of dollars saved fist.
NTA. If she wants to be cooler, then maybe she should switch beds with B and move her bed closer to the window.
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Why can’t A and B switch beds. Then B isn’t right by the cold window and the sister who needs it open can be closer to the cool air?
Our room isn’t that big so it’d be difficult to move around the beds, it’s more difficult with A’s bed since her bed is a queen bed and we’re never able to get the beds past each other when rearranging them.
Seems to me that if two out of three vote for having the window closed or cracked then that’s how it should be particularly since one of those two has the bed right by the window. If the oldest sister wants the cold air so much why doesn’t she switch beds with the youngest one so she can have the cold air when the window was cracked?
Her bed is a queen bed and she wouldn’t fit in B’s bed since it’s a twin bed. There’s not a lot of room for her to move around. And she likes to stretch out when sleeping (like I do).
NTA. Though I feel like this question could be settled by the person paying the heating bill – do your parents know she opens the window at night? Because opening a window while the furnace tries to heat the house is EXPENSIVE.