Okay so a little context, my family has a fight yesterday because my sister was mad with my dad and told my mom about it. And they never made up and pretend nothing happened. It’s normal for my family to do that because of pride, and I also do that even when I want to apologize.
But anyway, the next day my mom decided to take a video with my brother. Something sweet and cute and I liked the idea. The problem is my sister was on it. She was covering herself with her hand making sure her face isn’t shown. She didn’t say anything because my mom will call out for her behavior. So after my mom took the video I asked her to retake it on a different angle. Because my sister already talked about how she don’t want her face in videos or worse, in the internet. So I told my mom and she said “okay” I thought she respected my sisters decision but later she said “I deleted the video” which we didn’t want. We wanted her to just retake it. So when I asked her she said she doesn’t wanna take it anymore. And I noticed her demeanor was different. So I asked her if something was wrong. And explained her that my sister didn’t want to be in the video. But then she got so defensive and started saying things like:
“Why can’t I be happy for a little bit?” Or “do you not want to be in part of the family?”
And more. I tried to explain her that my sister was again, uncomfortable but she didn’t want to listen. And my sister is now currently crying.
And I just thought maybe it was my fault because I’m the one who asked my mom to retake it.
Or that maybe she was in a bad mood because it the day before that.
So tell me, am I really the asshole?
NTA. I don’t like having my picture taken by my mother/aunts either, and don’t like being on camera in general.
Oof. I think this a bit too nuanced to give a verdict so I’m going to say NAH.
I totally get your sister. She must feel incredibly strongly about not being on film. But at the same time, it must be hard on your mom who sometimes wants tangible (or visible) memories and not be able to have photos/pictures of her daughter.
INFO: Is this just not wanting to be on film or afraid of being posted to social media? Can this be fixed with your family promising not to post her on social media if that’s what she’d prefer? Would your mom honor that?
Yeah the problem is she likes to post family stuff and sometimes my sister is forcefully in there which makes me sad. And that’s why I had to let her know now
NTA for standing up for your sister. No one should have videos or pictures of them posted online if they don’t want them to. Your mom should have been more mindful of your sisters wishes and she only got defensive cause you called her out on it. Sounds like you didn’t do it in a mean way, so I think you were ok.
NTA
Why isn’t your sister doing this? Unless she is a minor and you have legal custody you are not responsible for where her picture is.
NTA. Your mom should know better than to record your sister without permission, ESPECIALLY if she’s a minor and it’s going on the internet.