I 27M have a good pal getting married in August 26 M. We met when I was 19 he was 18 working in fast food together. I moved away for college at 21 and remained in contact until post college where I moved to a different state from where we met and he still lives
Now to the wedding: he’s getting married on a Monday (yes monday) in a minimum 4 hour flight away.
However I will be at ANOTHER wedding that weekend before which I had committed to already and I am in that wedding as a groomsman.
We don’t talk as much as before but stayed in decent contact/see each other when I’m in his city and he’s in mine.
However. A Monday after another wedding that’s also in an another state?
Am I being lazy? Or WIBTA
It’s an invitation not a Summons.
NTA if you can’t make it work. When you reply to the invitation, I suggest that you explain why and (perhaps) spend a bit more on the wedding present as you’ll not be incurring travel costs.
Truth, I feel wedding culture now has gotten out of hand and we alway feel obligated. But Monday is wild
JUST LET HIM KNOW YOU HAD PRIOR ENGAGEMENT
NTA. You can’t make it. I’m sure he will be understanding. I had to miss out on a friend’s wedding a few years back and he was absolutely fine about it. His exact response was “Life will life, thanks for letting me know. We will have a few when I’m back from the honeymoon to celebrate”. People are understanding. Things crop up. Just make sure you let them know with plenty of time and be honest. Good luck.
Good insight I appreciate it. I’m sure he gets it since it’s on a Monday. I always go out of my way for people so weird for me to put my time ahead of others
I’m sure he does. Honestly don’t fret it. As long as you’re upfront and honest there’s nothing to worry about
Is the other wedding on the Saturday or the Sunday? Can you do both or not? Only you know
Saturday in Washington, the other one is Monday in Southern California
Seems like if you want to do both you can, so again, it’s all up to you. Just like it always was.
NTA. You have a prior engagement and can’t make it. It’s a wedding invitation, not a jury summons.
It’s not a subpoena. If you can’t or don’t want to make it work, just tell your friend…..
it’s too much traveling – and being a groomsman, you need to prioritize the one for which you have an official responsibility.