I’m honestly not sure if I handled this wrong or if I’m just being guilt-tripped.
I (19F) share an apartment with my friend (20F). Her parents are very strict and think she still lives in a college hostel. In reality, she’s been living with me for almost a year. I never loved the lie, but I stayed out of it because it wasn’t my family.
Last week, her mom randomly showed up in our city and called me asking if she could come by the hostel to see her daughter. I panicked and said I had no idea where she was because I didn’t want to lie directly to her parents. Apparently, that caused a huge fight between them when her mom eventually found out the truth.
Now my friends furious at me and says I “betrayed” her and should have just covered for her for one day. She says I knew how strict her parents were and that I put her in danger by not helping.
I feel bad because I know her home situation is complicated, but at the same time I never agreed to be part of this lie and I didn’t want to get dragged into family drama.
Our mutual friends are split andd some say I should’ve helped her since I benefited from the arrangement too, others say it wasn’t my responsibility.
**EDIT :**
**so basically, we are Indians and we are studying in another state for our college and we were from the same hometown and our parents are basically really close and we were acquaintances so I am like their person to go to or call when she’s not able to pick up calls and and basically what happened was that she lives in a college hostel which had limited time for visitors and her parents wanted to ask me when the visiting time was because she was not picking up her phone. It was around 5 PM and they called me asking me if she’s in the college hostel and when they visited her hostel, she was not there. Her name was not in the register and during that time, she was out drinking already with her friends so I could not tell her parents that she was out drinking and I was already panicking because her mom and dad were already very mad and they know where I lived because like I said, our parents are very close and basically her parents are not abusive or bad in any way they’re just strict as any brown parents are going to be with their children. so they’re quite angry with her and they had a huge fight and she basically turned half of my friends against me and we never had like an agreement on what to do if such situations happen**
INFO:
There’s a hell of a lot missing from your story.
Why would her parents call YOU and not her? For that matter, why would they even have your number?
How did saying “I have no idea where she is” cause a problem, when (as far as her parents were concerned) she was living in the hostel, and if she really HAD been living there, it may well have been true at the moment they called that you literally did not know where she was?
How did her parents find out that she really lived in an apartment with you? Was it you saying “I have no idea where she is” that led to them discovering the truth? If so, how exactly?
What lie does your friend think you should have told on her behalf?