Ive been in this gaming clan for years. one of the leaders is a real life friend of 15+ years I was also a mod at the time. a newer member and i got into an argument and I didnt really escalate it and just let it go at first.
later he asked if we were cool. i told him ide need an apology to move on… he never apologized. a few days later he started sending passive aggresive messages/ i responded again saying the same thing. apology or I’m not moving past it. instead he kept up with the passive comments turning insults I returned the energy for a few messages before deciding I can do this all day and its not worth it so i blocked him.
after i blocked him he messages me in game saying at least my moms not dead and then went offline… That crossed a line for me thats not trash talk thats personal. lines you dont cross
Leadership got involved and decided he was only getting a warning and was "supposed to apologize" not even to me but to them. And if he was supposed to apologize to me idk how thats possible when how could you ever wanna talk to someone like that again?
when i found out he was staying with just a warning. I reacted emotionally and called one of the leaders pathetic. for that i was instantly demoted as a mod and banned for a week.
the guy who made the dead mom comment stayed with no ban.
i know i shouldnt of insulted the leader but i dont understand how that got punished harder than mocking someones dead parent.
also my irl friend the leader hardly cares(or more so willing to follow the other leader) so makes things even harder and worse. where at first he was ok with a ban. then the other leader came in defending that behavior ?
My lil dude… the world is unfair and cruel. Doing expect your video have friends to be any different
Clanmate? I must be old.
guess i shoulda wrote it up differently how i feel more betrayed by a really close friend whos just gonna let someone make comments like that to me when ide deafened his family from anything yaknow
What kind of 12 y.o. nonsense is this?
You want “justice?” You haven’t been personally wronged. You took what was an out of pocket, crappy comment from a private individual and made it everyone else’s problem, then went overboard yourself when they didn’t give it the seriousness you personally expected.
You blocked the guy, that should have been the end of it. When that wasn’t, you bothered the group with this? You made a nasty comment to the mod and expected that to fly?
You’re YTA for being so childish, because unless you’re literally a preteen, you need to learn your petty drama is not anyone else’s issue.
OP is this the guy?
no haha i get it tho its about a game at first glance but really its about a best friend letting my dead mom be disrespected and now somehow im just bouta be exiled from the group over it when i feel like i was doing phenominal at being the bigger person the whole time and im just the bad guy for wanting someone like that gone
well calling someone pathetic doesnt compare to shitting on someones dead mom but the punishments were extremely different i was a mod and if someone said something like that to his family he would kick them instantly. its more about the hole i feel when my friend not backing me up. and the crazy double standards
Again, a personal issue, not one for the whole group. Unless wrangling children is a part of the agreed upon mod duties, they’d have been entirely justified telling you to deal with it privately. Your drama is not group drama.
As for your friend, maybe just talk to them. It’s a mod *team* not him individually. Chances are there’s an established system for these things, and calling a mod pathetic is always going to be punished more harshly than nonsense between two members
You did have an emotional reaction but I think it was justified. It seems like you tried to avoid drama and you let it go at first but the person crossed a line and it’s understandable why you would be upset after such a comment. Why were you banned though? I understand you had an emotional reaction but was it something you said or was it just because you had a reaction? If you tried to communicate to your friends properly how you feel and they banned you instead of that guy while he was bullying you the whole time, then you may need new friends OP. Also sorry for your loss, I hope your mom rests in peace.
i called the other owner not my irl friend pathetic when his response was basically like i need to deescalate better and hes gonna get a warning. when i basically already told the guy twice an apology is the only thing that will help things. i did do that part i was ignoring him giving him a chance to appoligize and only got passive aggresive comments today randomly so thats what resumed this. and the apology was about the original fight not even the dead mom comment. which now the dead mom comment apology went to the clan leaders? what about me and why is my punishment beyond crazy and extreme compared to his warning… what type of double standard is that.
There’s no fucking way Runescape clan drama should be occupying this much of your brains bandwidth.
NTA. What does your friend say? Why wasn’t the reason to demote you and ban you for a week a joint decision between him and the other mod? Some people just abuse the tiny little amount of power they have and it’s frustrating but there’s really nothing you can do about it beside find another group to play with or start your own group.
well other owner but he just gets to make snap decisions like that and what he says goes it makes no sense especially as hes hardly experienced at the game anyhow… its 100% abuse of power because i told him if i say one thing about your fam youll instantly ban me why isnt it the same with me who was also a mod and i do alot for the clan. i previously thought we were cool we would chat for hours so just really eye opening to see how your friends act. me calling him pathetic he should take a step back as a leader and see that im just frustrated af with him getting a warning and me being disregarded. not just make it about him immediately like “oh im pathetic” because yes he was and does act extremely pathetic with double standards like that… but nonetheless me getting punished for that and demoted for an honest opinion out of anger vs actual blatant disregard for innocent family life? if im getting a 7 day and a vote for perma ban then homie needs to be in jail if we are comparing the crimes because wtf am i wrong?