My (20F) Dad (52M) has always had a short temper. I got into the show heated rivalry lately, and me and my mom were discussing dance party themed around the show i’m going to tomorrow.
(For anyone unaware, Heated Rivalry is a popular gay hockey romance TV show with lots of explicit sex scenes.)
My dad jumped into the conversation, and asked if we should watch it as a family without knowing what the show is about. Because this is a funny situation, me and my mom laughed and said no, we shouldn’t. He got really mad and started grumbling about how he’s never included in things. My mom tried to explain further by saying that she does not want to watch sex scenes with her child, but apparently the damage was already done and he “Felt made fun of”.
I feel like he was overreacting, but he’s still being grumbly so i’m second guessing myself.
I wouldn’t even watch Heated Rivalry with my mother. He’s definitely overreacting. Find a nice, wholesome show to watch with him
Guess it’s time Dad learned a little lesson. When’s the viewing party?
Ehhh, ESH. I don’t think your dad aware of the “funny situation” so hes valid in feeling like you guys made fun of him. But also he doesn’t have to be a grumbly baby about it. Just explain why you laughed and what the show is about when hes calmed down
I don’t think you’re an AH because I’d feel the same way. BUT… to me this reads like a bid for connection on his part. He saw an opportunity to spend some quality time together (misguided though it may be) and he got laughed at.
I don’t know what your relationship with him is, but if it’s one you care about then I think it’s worth extending an olive branch. Maybe there’s another show you like that you think he might be interested in watching with you?
NAH
YTA for not being more clear on why. Your answer was dismissive and it makes sense your dad would feel excluded by it. He is overreacting if he’s annoyed for more than like ten minutes but that’s a separate issue.
NTA but to be fair, no one likes to also a question and have a laughter filled no, be the answer. Kinda see why that would sting.
NAH – I don’t think you were wrong to laugh exactly, but I can see why your dad’s feelings would be hurt. I’m going to echo what some other people commented and say that you should tell him you’re sorry he was hurt and you’d like to find a show you guys can watch together-just definitely not that one.
NAH. I understand why you laughed. But his comment seems to indicate he’s looking for ways to connect so his feelings were hurt. Assuming he’s generally a good dad who you don’t mind spending time with, maybe explain to him why you don’t want to watch Heated Rivalry together but suggest another show. I suggest Shrinking which comes back in a couple of weeks.
100%. Dude volunteered to watch a show he knows nothing about just so he could have a shared interest with his kid. OP definitely shouldn’t squander that opportunity and Shrinking is a great suggestion.
A little bit YTA for laughing before explaining.
He didn’t know what the show was about, he just heard something that you were enjoying and discussing with your mom, and asked whether it was something you could all watch together.
It sounds like he’s trying to find ways to connect and spend time with you.
Maybe just go and apologize, tell him you didn’t mean to make him feel that way, you were just caught off guard at the thought of watching a show with sex scenes with your parents.
YTA he’s trying to propose a family activity and was just dismissed and laughed at. Also I don’t personally think the show is automatically unfit to watch together, me, my mum and my grandmother all watched game of thrones together.
I think it depends on the family, but it definitely isn’t the kind of show most people would want to watch with their family. It honestly sounds like my idea of hell, even moreso depending on individual parent’s views
This feels like an ad for a show.
NAH
But maybe find something to watch together with your dad as well. It can be a great bonding activity.