My roomate asked me to leave so he could have a girl over one night last week. I told him I wasn’t leaving. He made alternate plans that evening. He just texted me that he plans on having another chick over tonight if I’m home or not. For background, this is my home and he’s renting a room. Yes, we both pay rent here. But I feel like it’s rude to bring someone to the house specifically for sexual purposes while the other person is home. WIBTA if I told him I’m not cool with it?
Yta. He’s paying rent and has certain rights, which include the right to have guests over.
He lives there, too, though.
You weren’t an asshole for declining to get kicked out of your own home, but YWBTA if you try to make it so he can’t have sex at his own home. He’s paying money for a room. He gets to do whatever he wants in there, as long as he keeps it quiet.
Info- are you saying he can’t bring someone into his own bedroom because he rents the room in the house from you?
If he’s paying rent, he should be able to have quite a bit of say to decide what kinds of guests he brings over and for what purposes. It’s wrong of him to kick you out/ask you to leave, but if he wants to bring a partner back to his room after a date and he pays rent, he deserves to.
YTA
He pays rent, he lives there, what he does in his room isn’t really your business unless when he rented from you he was explicitly told no sexual activity when I’m home (which is obnoxiously unreasonable if you aren’t going to leave when he wants to use his room)
You’re not compatible roommates.
Why are you feeling uncomfortable with him bringing girls over? I would also prefer my roommate not doing sexual activities in shared living space, but what’s the problem with him having those activities in his room, which he pays for? Kinda YTA for controlling him in terms of bringing guests over
As long as he’s paying rent for a room and you didn’t write in the contract that he may not, then he may have sex in his room. When renting a flat or a room, people are expected to be able to have sex there. I get it might be uncomfortable for you, but YTA.
He can’t have sex in his own room he pays for? As long as you cant hear him and he isnt walking around naked, i dont see the issue. Youre acting like hes a teenager and youre his parent
Edit; he def shouldnt be asking you to leave your house tho.
YTA you dont get to moralize over the reason they are having a guest over.
What does your lease say? As he is likely a lodger in this scenario if your lease says no guests, and he agreed to those terms when he signed the lease then ok. Youre just enforcing the preagreed terms. If you have no lease or it doesn’t mention guests then you have given up your right to make those sorts of determinations in “your house”
He was trying to be considerate before by giving you notice and asking for some privacy, and you made it clear you just think he should provide you income and have no rights to the space he is renting. This is the foreseeable and reasonable result.
It’s not ok for him to ask you to leave, and it’s not ok for you to not allow him to have a guest unless that was specifically agreed to when moving in and signing the lease.
YTA
If you are uncomfortable with a roommate having sex in their home, then don’t rent out rooms.
Yta, for feeling you have any say about what he sexually does in a room he rents.
YTA and get over it. He’s renting a room, he’s legally entitled to peaceful enjoyment of it.
If they’re in there howling like banshees, ok fine, say something, otherwise? Mind your own business. If you can’t handle people doing basic human things, you really shouldn’t be living with other people.