I’ve been talking to a couple of friends who I haven’t managed to meet up with for a while. We last saw each other in the summer last year so we’re making plans for next month.
We agreed a date an my girlfriend mentioned she’s made plans with her friends for the same day. She said we could all meet up and go for drinks together.
I said maybe another time since I wanted to just be a k to catchup with my friends. I said maybe towards the end of the of the night but not for most of it,
She looked annoyed and mentioned it might be a fun night. I repeated again that I was wanting to catch up with my friends and that we can all possibly hang out another time.
She said she wasn’t asking for much and it was like I didn’t want to spend time with her but I just pointed out the night is for me to spend time with my friends.
AITAH for only meeting up with friends and not joining my girlfriend and her friends?
nta – you both have separate plans. i don’t know why she’s trying to make an issue out of nothing
Nta. It is reasonable to want quality time to catch up with your friends. It is a red flag imo if she generally has a problem with you spending time with your friends without her.
INFO: When did you last go out with your GF? Do you often meet your GF’s friends?
NTA. You’re entitled to your alone time with friends as much as she is.
NTA…You have plans to meet friends. Social time apart is healthy. It’s concerning that your girlfriend thinks she always needs to be included. Hopefully this doesn’t happen all the time.
NTA you are entitled to some time to catch up with your friends. It was fine of her to suggest a group outing, but once you declined, that should be the end of it.
NTA. Get ready for a life of this habitual boundary stepping. I had a partner who did this, she never changed or even understood that it was wrong.
your time your rules. she made her plans, you made yours. thats how it works
why is she trying to merge? thats weird. go catch up with your boys
if she’s mad about it… red flag. fr
NTA. This is a perfectly legitimate time to have some separate social time.
You are both approaching your social time differently. Your GF obviously wants this to be a party, and you just want a hang with your friends. Those two things are mutually exclusive and so, it won’t work.
I’m very surprised the end-of-the-night compromise was rejected as it sounded good to me. With that off the table, you have plans, she has separate plans, and you will do things separately.
NTA. You asking for one night isn’t a big deal. Her pushing more and more about it will cause a big deal.
This post is stolen btw
She’s allowed to have solo time with her friends.
You’re allowed to have solo time with your friends.
Such “solo times” are part of any healthy relationship.
You are absolutely NTA.
She asked and you said no. That should be the end of it. Her bullying you isn’t going to make you want to go out with her and her friends. Is she controlling in a lot of other ways because you may want to look at the whole relationship and address that with her.