I’ll be straight to the point, I had some materials to work with for the high school, my family is kind of struggling with money and that, so I had limited resources to do my school works, a few paper sheets, some bookmarks etc. The point is that I left my things on my desk to work with them the next day, I usually sleep a lot during weekends so I woke up pretty late, I walked out of the room I share with my mom, my sister and sometimes my cousins, then I notice that my sister and my cousin used ALL of my stuff to play with it, all the paper sheets, bookmarks, glue, all of my things were trash now, they wasted it all. (no, my sister and my cousin are not babies btw, my sister is 10 years old and my cousin is 12) I usually take these things with calm, but I needed to do like 5 drawings for the next day and I was counting on my stuff, then I obviously got really mad, I don’t have money to buy more paper sheets and bookmarks, my mom excused my sister with that pathetic "she’s your sister, your things are also hers", then she started to say that my father is also her father and she justifies my sister being a spoiled brat that steals my stuff. Am I wrong and I should apologize or I’m right?
Edit to add NTA. OP answered my question, and not only did they take it off OP’s desk, but more specifically, after OP told them they needed the stuff for school. I’m sorry your family couldn’t respect you and put your schoolwork ahead of their wants.
More info needed: Was it specifically your desk? And did your family know you needed to use that stuff?
Yeah, I know the type of person they are, so I told them to not use these things, and yes it was my desk
NTA school work goes first, always. Because that is your future. I’m sorry you’re not getting the proper support at home, is there a teacher you can speak to? All the best!
I’ll probably talk to my teacher about this so I can get more time to do these drawings
Also talk to your counselor. They might be aware of some programs to get you the supplies you need to complete your work.
NTA
Even with siblings, there are things that belong to only that person. It is unacceptable to use other people’s things without asking. My boys are very close in age and still ask each other if they can enter their room or use their stuff. It’s basic courtesy.
If this is a recurring problem and no one will back you up, put all your stuff away when you are done with it.
You raised them to respect others and their things. So very important in life.
You’re not wrong.
You had school materials that you genuinely needed, and they were taken and destroyed without asking. Your sister and cousin are 10 and 12, not toddlers, they’re old enough to understand “this isn’t mine” and “don’t waste things.”
Being family does not mean your belongings automatically belong to everyone else, especially when money is tight and those things are for school. Saying “she’s your sister, so your things are hers” is unfair and teaches her that she doesn’t have to respect boundaries or responsibility.
You’re allowed to be angry. You didn’t get mad over toys, you got mad because your education was affected, and that’s valid.
You don’t owe an apology for being upset. If anything, your sister should be taught to ask first and to respect your things, and your mom should’ve backed you up instead of excusing it.
You’re right for standing up for yourself.
NTA and NO just bc you’re siblings doesn’t mean you automatically share things. Parents who think like this really irritate me. But you just learned your lesson; don’t leave anything out in the open because no respects your things and your mom doesn’t care.
If your parents bought the supplies, then I understand why they feel that when they purchase something then all of their children have the right to use it.
But, I think you need to let your mother know that doing well at school is dependent on being able to turn in assignments, and if there’s no other paper around for you to use, then you won’t be able to turn in this assignment.
Ask her if it’s OK for you to put some supplies aside for your schoolwork. Ask her what the best way to do this is so that nobody else uses your supplies.
NTA
According to your mom’s logic, does that mean you are allowed to get your siblings things and use them up or destroy them without permission? Is your mom or dad going to replace the items since they think it’s okay for your siblings to use them up?
If your parents can’t or won’t make sure you have what you need for school, can you reach out to your teachers or a guidance counselor and basically tell them that you are having problems getting the school supplies you need and that the supplies you do have get stolen or destroyed? They may be able to help you get some and arrange to keep them at school.
The parents should have been more understanding and sympathetic to the OPs struggles. Is there a way the OP could ask for supplies from the school perhaps. It doesn’t sound like the OP has a family life that supports educational needs.
You need to get a lockbox big enough to hold your art supplies. It can be secondhand. NTA
NTA but try to get your mother to write a note to the teacher explaining the younger child used up your school supplies and apologising that you are therefore unable to do the schoolwork.