My daughter wanted to go to the park to play so we decided to drive her to the park. On our way my wife missed a few turns to the park. I didn’t tell her about her missing the turn because prior to today, when I do let her know about where to turn as sometime she forgets to signal before the turn, she would be annoyed that I told her by saying that she knows…. and when I do tell her afterwards sometimes she would be like why didn’t you tell me earlier… So opted not to tell her if she would be annoyed at me for telling her. But anyways back to the current situation. She notice she missed the turns earlier and was about to make left turn at this intersection. She pulled up to the intersection and was waiting to make the left turn, but I saw that there was a no left turn sign and told her, its a no turn here. She then points to another sign in front of us that shows turn lanes but the sign was not fully facing our direction and proceeds to make the turn.
After making the turn she tells me not to do that again as it was dangerous to tell her that it was a no turn sign as she waited to make the turn. I told her that there was a no turn sign, she tells me that she did not see it and in front was a turning sign. I told her that that was for the perpendicular traffic and was not for the street she was on. We continue arguing back and forth about the turn when we get to the park and she tells me that I’m not understanding how I made it dangerous for her as she was about to make the turn to tell her that it was a no turn.
I did not tell her that it was a No Turn as she was in the middle of making the turn, nor that i quickly tell her to correct herself which might cause an accident. I did wait till she had stopped and was waiting. But she continue to tell me that I made it dangerous for her.
I told her if i didn’t tell her that it was a no turn intersection and we get into an accident, that it would be my conscious that her, me and my daughter getting hurt for not saying anything.
AITA?
I wouldn’t let her drive again. No youre NTA. She needs to be more aware of her surroundings, especially street signs. It will be a 1 way road next
I can see both sides, but safety should come first. If there’s a no turn sign, it’s important to point it out! She’ll get over it eventually.
NTA, and maybe having GPS going for all her drives will help her focus more? I’m really concerned at this level of distractability.
Gps didn’t tell her to turn and to drive straight. She probably thought gps was giving her the go around and did not understand why it didn’t tell her to turn at the intersection.
Didn’t the GPS tell her to turn multiple times earlier?
NTA at all. Her calling what you did “dangerous” is a dramatic overreaction to what happened. I would be concerned about her driving your daughter around.
I would suggest using voiced direction from Google Map when your wife drives
NTA. If you pointed it out in a reasonable amount of time ahead of the actual need to turn, you were being safe and considerate. Sounds like she needs to be a more attentive driver. I think the GPS idea someone else suggested should really be considered.
My wife always gave me a lot of shit when I’d point driving issues out to her. I was never rude about it… you know, since I loved her and all… but I’m a passenger and I don’t want to get hurt, so I’d say something.
My current girlfriend, however, actively thanks me when I point out issues and I do the same in return.
Good partners with good communication skills can handle constructive criticism. What does that tell you about you and your wife?
NTA.
Your wife doesn’t like to be told anything about driving. Her complaint will always be : how you said it , when you said it, or whether it was valid . The truth is, she doesn’t want to hear it. Make peace with that and then decide whether to speak up or not, to get in the car if she’s driving or not.
I told her if you think that me telling you about things that you miss while she drives “dangerous”, I’m not going to be a passenger pilot and that I’m just going to sit in the back with our daughter.
Ironic she said YOU made it dangerous. She’s clearly an incompetent driver.
NTA
One of those people that believe danger only exists if one is AWARE of the danger.
NTA she’s wrong and doesn’t want to admit she could have gotten you all killed or hurt. She was told when stopped, you’re fine but I’d insist on driving or her using gps because you have every right to speak up before there’s an accident.