I have my own dog, who is a reactive rescue and i’ve trained him for years so he’s now a lot better and I can bring him in public and he will ignore other dogs/people. My brother has a 8(?) month old puppy who he never walks or takes anywhere to socialize. He says he’s too busy but he got this puppy right before he started a trade school and knew exactly how busy he’d be.
This had led to this puppy being reactive to basically everything, lunging and barking whenever I try to take it out with me and my dog. I’ve stopped taking the puppy out on my own, and have offered training advice to my brother (both when he got the puppy and after it started showing reactivity) but he never takes it anywhere but the backyard so obviously there’s no improvement.
Now he’s saying i’m the asshole because i’m less busy (i still have school, a job, my own dog, and other animals) but don’t want to take his dog on walks/train it for him. I don’t think it’s fair for me to have to train this dog/have my own dog think reacting is ok because the puppy does it. Personally I think I do enough for this puppy (I watch it at the house 10x more than he does) and it’s not my job to train or walk it as well?
Tell him to rehome the dog with someone who has the time. He chose to get a dog it is his responsibility
nta he needs to rehome if he cant give the puppy the care it deserves poor thing its unfair on both dogs your brothers irisponsible
Nta. Call your brother out some more for being an irresponsible dog owner. If you train his dog, that’s not his dog, it’s yours. The dog won’t listen to him if you train it. Tell him point blank to get rid of the dog if he can’t do basic training necessities for his own pet. Let alone walk it. A puppy needs ATTENTION, if he doesn’t have the ability to give time, get rid of puppy.
NTA, not your dog, not your circus.
If he wanted a trained socialized dog, he should have adopted an older one from the shelter that wouldn’t mind his busy schedule.
The poor puppy deserves a better owner. The puppy needs to be rehomed to someone who can actually give it the time of day and attention a BABY ANIMAL needs.
Tell him to pay you or a trainer. This dog could end up being put down for biting or just live a life full of fear and thats on him. Nta
He doesn’t have any money to pay a trainer because spends all his money on things he doesn’t need. Luckily the puppy is friendly just very overexcited and reactive because of that, but obviously any reactivity isn’t good at all.
I had a friendly dog who had fear reactivity. She ended up being put down at seven. I tried everything and by the time I finally got her help it was too late. She had also bit me a couple times trying to get to other dogs. Im glad it was me and not the other dogs. I loved her so much, she was a good girl just scared. She had a rough start it wasntnher fault. I failed her though. I should’ve re homed her earlier if I couldn’t afford training as a baby. My other dogs were never that bad. She was a backyard dog with zero socialization before I got her and her previous owners hit her. So I was already working with a scared dog. I bit off more than I could chew.
You’re nta, but it doesnt mean you wont feel bad if something bad happens. Just remember it isn’t really your dog, do what you can, and maybe talk him into rehoming the dog. Also add reactive dogs sub reddit ♡♡♡♡ best of luck
Everyone is failing this dog
If he would come with me on walks I would be happy to help him train his puppy and yeah that could help my own dogs training too. But I can’t manage two dogs at once by myself with different types of reactive, and i’ve noticed when I try to do that my dog’s training suffers and my dog is my priority at the end of the day 🤷♀️
NTA because it isn’t your dog
However, usually an older dog is useful to help train a puppy and help it in check. Could also be extra useful for your dog reinforcing training and further socialisation for your dog.
But, big but, if you don’t want to do this for your brother or for his puppy, you don’t have to and no jn’s can say YTA if you choose not to. It is up to your brother to train or organise training for his puppy
I feel like I’ve read this situation before. Is this a dupe with minor changes?
I think we see this post every two months.
NTA. Your brother is a huge AH for doing what he’s doing, he shouldn’t have gotten a puppy, the sane thing to do is for him to rehome it so it has a chance at a good life
NTA
But. Living with a reactive/untrained dog is hell. Your own dog is going to up with hangups because of this puppy.
You can’t make your brother take responsibility for his dog and you aren’t technically required to do anything with this pup.
But I wouldn’t live in that house and I wouldn’t visit a house with a reactive untrained puppy. Nor would I ever agree to dog sit.