My mom went out to get my brothers some food and didn’t get me anything. When she picked me up from my work (babysitting for family friends) I asked her if we could order instead of making food (as I usually make food since she works pretty late) and she says she already got food for my brothers but didn’t get me anything. I got so angry at this. I mean, its been over an hour and I’m still in my room crying. I’m so upset they didn’t buy me food, firstly because I’m so tired and second because it seems like she always prioritizes my brothers wellbeing over my own and it really hurts. She walked into my room asking why I was crying, seemingly oblivious that shes the one that made me cry. I know its silly, but she offered me their leftovers. Like what. Am I only worth their leftovers? I’m hungry too. I would like to eat food more than just scraps off a chicken bone. Or am I being a spoiled little brat?
p.s. I’m still really upset about this and still crying in my room :,(
edit: The job I work is BABYSITTING. It’s not actual work just something I do as a hobby. I’m still in high school lol.
NTA. “I usually make food.” You are the free cook. You have every right to be upset. She is using you to prioritize your brothers. You make sure everyone is fed without her having to do it. That is her using you to make sure your brothers are taken care of.
Info did she say she wasn’t getting you anything or was it a case of “shlukd we all get takeout” “brother already has something”
No she just picked me up from my work (babysitting) and when I asked for food she said she already got my brothers food.
Start prioritizing yourself stop cooking for dinner for your brothers mom can put sandwiches in the fridge for them
stop any other chore they expect you to
do when they ask why your doing this tell them her truth if my brothers are your top priority I’m going to be my top priority
I think it depends on how old you are
16
NTA your mom needs to get you food when they get food, if they’re hungry, you’re hungry. Ask her why you’re eating their scraps and not a full meal for yourself because it’s showing a bit she prioritizes your brothers over you. Even if they already got food, she should’ve taken you to get food, especially if you usually cook for everyone. She should not have a single one of her children up at night crying because they’re hungry. If she answers poorly, stop cooking for your family
How old are you?
NTA honey. You deserve to be taken care of also and have your basic needs met
Did you tell her why you were upset? And how come you didn’t order food for pickup on your way home from work that she could pay for? Did she refuse to buy you dinner? You aren’t TA for being upset but it is unclear if you verbalized why you were upset or took any action to fix the problem.
NTA. Regardless of age, parents should always feed their children and treat them equally. Stop being a free service and just cook for yourself to get your message across. Especially if you’re a minor.
NTA. I see you; my mom was the same. I had to understand that she was always going to jump through hoops for her sons and leave me hanging, so it is always on me to do for myself.
So I do. And now, my boundaries are firm and sure and she wonders why we’ll never be close.
NTA. It’s weird as hell to make an effort to feed two of your kids and expect the other one to fend for themselves.