I live with a roommate and we split all household bills in away that benefits all, When I go out or order food, I sometimes get myself a drink. Over time, my roommate has started expecting me to automatically buy one for her too, At first I did, but it added up, and she doesn’t usually return the favor when she buys things for herself. If I come home with just my own drink, or food she makes comments about me not getting her one, I told her I’m fine buying occasionally, but I don’t think it should be expected every time. She says I’m being petty and that it’s basic courtesy between roommates, Now things feel awkward, AITA?
NTA Do what you want with your own money. If she isn’t bring you back a drink every time she gets herself one she shouldn’t be asking you to do so.
yes you are right
NTA next time she gets food herself ask her “where’s mine?” Hypocrite smh
Thank you so much for this
Apparently its basic courtesy!
INFO: are you really roommates or a couple? This is wild. Rent etc. 50/50 is normal, but food? Takeout? wtf?
NTA. She’s an adult and can do adult things like buying her own drinks.
NTA at all. your roommate is confusing “basic courtesy” with “free catering.” there is no rule that says living together means you have to pay a 50% tax on every treat you buy for yourself, especially if she isn’t returning the favor.
it’s honestly pretty bold of her to make comments when you come home with your own stuff. if she wants a drink that bad, she can use her own phone to order one or walk to the store herself. you already did her a solid by getting them for her at the start, but now she’s just taking advantage of your kindness.
You already pay shared bills fairly. Snacks and drinks are personal expenses unless there’s an agreed system.
NTA…and tell her you are not in a romantic relationship with her
NTA. Just stop buying her things. She is starting to think of you as her boyfriend.
You’re NTA
>She says I’m being petty and that it’s basic courtesy between roommates
>she doesn’t usually return the favor when she buys things for herself.
Sounds like she doesn’t fully understand that courtesies should be reciprocated and only occasionally practices what she preaches.
NTA
If it’s basic courtesy among roommates, why isn’t she doing it in return?
Nope! You are roommates, not a couple or household. Also drink consumption and on-the-go (or take-home) takeout are personal expenditures.
Let her know you can’t afford to get her food or a drink every time you get one for yourself. Even if you COULD, doing so is a gift, not an obligation, and you shouldn’t be expected to do so on a regular basis.