My girlfriend said she was hungry and asked me to find a place for dinner.
We had just dropped her son off at the movies for a three-hour showing, and we happened to be parked right next to one of our favorite places to eat. Food we both really like. I pointed it out and got excited like, “oh perfect.” She said she didn’t want that.
On the way home, I suggested another place we’ve been to before. She said no. Then I suggested a sushi place we both know. Also no.
When we got back to her place, she was clearly unhappy and said she didn’t want to go anywhere anymore and that I could just go home.
That night was one of the few times we actually had a couple of uninterrupted hours just for ourselves. I was pretty disappointed.
On my way home I texted her one more suggestion a steakhouse nearby just to eat well and maybe do some people-watching. She didn’t respond. I tried calling, but she didn’t answer. She texted back “nice try” and said I was calling just to pretend that I care.
I did care.
She turned off location sharing after that, and that was basically the end of the night. I went home feeling like no matter what I do, it’s never enough.
After a few days of silence, she turned location sharing back on and said it was because she was on her period.
Now I don’t know what to think, and I’m honestly wondering if AITA here?
NTA. She wasn’t exactly being clear with where her head was at, and it’s not your fault she didn’t like any of your suggestions. If she wanted something specific, she should have said so instead of making you play a guessing game.
Bruh.., are you dating a teenager? Becuase it sounds like you’re dating a teenager.
Imma go with no, since she has a kid old enough to be dropped off somewhere alone. But yea,
this is petty child like drama and you should honestly consider moving on if she behaves this way with any regularity.
NTA
NTA
Periods suck.
I assume shes in her 30s? If her period is that debilitating, she should talk to her doctor. I understand being grouchy but turning off the phone for days is wild.
Did she apologize?
40s:)
She did apologize but … blamed everything on hormones. I don’t think that’s taking responsibility
She asked you to pick a place for dinner, then rejected every suggestion you made, then blew up about it?
That’s ALL on her, and there really isn’t an excuse for such behavior.
You can’t be expected to read her mind.
You are absolutely NTA.
NTA. That was a “test” and not something you should have to deal with. Eject.
It either sounds like a test of she wanted OP to leave so she could go see someone else. Why else turn the location off if your just at home.
Your post is riddled with red flags.
1.Her spending a night shutting down every single suggestion you mentioned with not providing any of her own. Then choosing to throw a mood and kick you out when you were supposed to spend time together.
2. When you still gave it one more shot and offer yet another suggestion, she turned that into you faking emotions and “not caring about her” when that was all her.
3. She makes you leave her place then immediately shuts off her location, which location sharing isn’t necessary but if you are doing it and its suddenly turned off tells me she went out and didn’t want you to know where. Which seems suspicious to me.
4. Lastly, she gave you the silent treatment for days after turning off her location. Where did she go and what did she do? Cause that what I’m wondering.
NTA, but id start asking some questions. Cause she appears suspicious from what you’ve wrote.
NTA.
She needs to learn how to communicate what she wants.
It doesn’t sound like this was about a restaurant, anyway.
She was feeling irritable and took it out on you. That isn’t fair. If she’s feeling cranky, she needs to own it and not dump the emotional labor to make her feel better onto you under the guise of you not being … successful in figuring out what she wants to eat when she can’t manage to articulate it herself.
Also, when it comes to picking restaurants, after two vetos it needs to be on the person doing the vetoing to pick.
NTA by a long shot and you need to be weary of this kind of behavior. It’s very obvious you tried.
She very much could have been hormonal but Are you okay with your relationship being like this every month bc her hormone shift will be like this every time she gets her period. For her to wait a few days to turn on her locations is weird too. Honestly it’s a bit of a red flag if you ask me.
NTA she was being ridiculous. You picked a place and then she didn’t vocalize what she wanted instead. When trying to figure a place out, I split the duty with the other person. One person chooses the category or type of cuisine and the other picks a place that fits the criteria
I wasn’t sure if AITA but now after posting this l kind of feel like one:)
It’s hard to come up with something exciting if the other person keeps rejecting you. Yesterday we decided to get a divorce
I wasn’t trying hard enough l guess
It’s for better
NTA, but disappearing for days ? That’s a cheating red flag there, she shut down every suggestion so you will drop her home and she can go do what she really wanted ……
She sounds exhausting. I have three brothers and they all use the same trick. Here is a trick they may work for awhile. Tell her to guess three places that you are taking her to dinner. Then take her to her first guess as it’s usually the place she wants to go.
Your girl sounds very immature. Remind her that you cannot read her mind.